How do you go about this - married folks only

[Richhot]

The fighting and suspicions are normal in any marriage. Your bro’s marriage is just about to be stable…but that will only happen when he himself matures up and faces to the mountain he himself created.
He doesn’t have to fight to be a man! The wife just wants to put him at the edge so she can understand him more. Initially she wanted to leave but now she stays put. She is getting mature but also she could be the one cheating. At this time if ua bro loses his mind he will not know hit him. That’s why I insist on him getting mature and not to worry about the dramas. Soon they will faze away once she realizes he has a strong stand.
Personally my wife has done so much drama and I chose to let her be. Nothing she could do that could shake me. One time she broke my car windows and I called my police friends who threatened her with arrest. She almost hid in the chimney. Weuh u should have seen how she shrunk and started begging me baba nani naomba nisilale ndani sitarudia tena.
Siku hizi she rants and I just smile alafu namuuliza Kama amemaliza rant. We just laugh and have a good time.

[MikeOck]

Enyewe hiyo game imeharibika, the ref needs to end it prematurely. Aende tu but aendelee kutunza mtoi. Mi niliwaambia marriage is the mother of madharau mlikataa kuskia. Ona sasa

[Quadro_k4000]

@gashwin

Sasa hio yote nimesoma ya nini kama nia ni kuvunja ndoa? “Bro yako” si aweke vya muhimu kwa suitcase aishie rongai, huko diaspora.

Its reffered to as slowly walking away like a breeze

[Kumbaffu]

Why are you saying married folks only but asking for advice on how to walk out of a ‘marriage’. You should have said ‘divorced folks only’. Tukona experience

[kijanamrefu]

We need more psychologists who focus on childhood trauma in adults.

[Nattydread]

@Richhot

He doesn’t have to fight to be a man! The wife just wants to put him at the edge so she can understand him more. Initially she wanted to leave but now she stays put. She is getting mature but also she could be the one cheating.

Wah! A genuine uber-beta male.

[SledgeHammer]

Woiye … kuna wengine wanatamani kunaggiwa aise… Kweli dunia rangi rangi nyingi

[MacDaddy]

@gatukajemo

Haiya! I have a friend who was in a similar situation a few years ago though they were yet to have a kid. He took his jacket one evening and said he is going for a walk. He came back after 6 months, the woman had found Jesus, had learnt her lesson and had stopped her s**t and drama. Bottom line is if you tolerate nonsense or act desperate when dealing with women you’ll suffer. We have men who act as if they would die if their woman walked out. Once a woman learns that you are of that type, prepare to suffer. Apana bembeleza mtu.

I have fucked a married lady that had been abandoned this way by the husband. They later on reconciled

[Sheldon]

Mm cko married but kama hio story ni ukweli id advice you to do what some talker did here achukue documents zake na aende bila kusema aanze upya kwingine kwani iko nn

[mr_shairman]

Kusafisha mecho for us men ni kuwaida na pia from time to time we must keep on reawakening our ufisi demons that’s how we check if our man cards are still intact. That does not mean we don’t love our wives. The biggest mistake your bro did was to be found out(ati it was just a complement, kwani myanduano huanza aje).
Once your lady lose some little trust in you(this creatures are emotional wreck), you will need to climb mt Everest to earn it back. So your bro should man the fuck up and make his home.

[Radical_Kisii]

So you…sorry your brother did nothing wrong, but fought bitterly with his beloved wife for a full 3 years. Your brother sounds like a serial cheater who with time got violent coz he felt that he owed no one an explanation on what he does. That marriage is bad for the child. walk get a new house but support your ex-wife financially. Dont talk to each other for a while to cool temperatures. you need to relate cordially for the child’s sake.

[Tony90]

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@smokin_gun

Why are you saying married folks only but asking for advice on how to walk out of a ‘marriage’. You should have said ‘divorced folks only’. Tukona experience

leta hekaya

[mtu_chuma]

@Radical Kisii

So you…sorry your brother did nothing wrong, but fought bitterly with his beloved wife for a full 3 years. Your brother sounds like a serial cheater who with time got violent coz he felt that he owed no one an explanation on what he does. That marriage is bad for the child. walk get a new house but support your ex-wife financially. Dont talk to each other for a while to cool temperatures. you need to relate cordially for the child’s sake.

Not support her but the child

[Rizi]

Very simple. Chukua logbook, title deeds and your certs. GO GO GO far ways from her. Otherwise utakufa stress.

[Freestyle]

She sounds very insecure , this could manifest depending on her past too, if she was a serial dater before marriage , back in her mind she is wary of KARMA. ikiwa ngumu mjamaa afuate hiyo advice ya kuita mapero

[Okwonkwo]

@Tony90

That day, to create drama she slept in the bathroom.

:D:D:D:D

[system]

Huyo mwanamke anaonekana extremely unstable. The first time I would of forgived her after involving my parents in things she merely suspected. The second time I would of personally helped her pack ndio atoke haraka. Ama if I was renting I would of left and never returned .

[bouss]

SMH…kids nowadays.

Huyo anataka makeup sex. Na hapo hakuna lovey dovey. Unapiga yeye mti sawasawa [SIZE=1](while choking her) [/SIZE]mpaka anatulia.

[His_Excellency]

Your sister in law has Bipolar, seek help mapema

[likad]

@Tony90

My younger brother asked me a question that would sound so easy but after giving me the chain of events I was unable to help. Iko hivi:
He has been married for around 3 years now, all of which have been pure drama.

He brought the lady home as a friend one Xmas. He did not divulge any more details to my parents but he hinted to me that they would be settling down soon. Her reception at home was warm and welcoming and I must say from a personal view she looked a wife material; cleaning after mum, assisting in household chores, reasonably religious etc. (but is that not how women act when they’re new in the family)

A few months after, they realized that the lady was expectant, and they moved in together. Things were ok until the kid was born. According to bro they had their first major issue after he saw a conversation between him and a lady, who bro was complementing. He tells me there was nothing between them and except that compliment, there was no other incriminating evidence. The wife demanded to know who that was threatening to leave as it usually happens. Thinking that since he was no krimino he told her it was a former colleague, but nothing sexual between them whatsoever. She would hear none of it. She started to pack threatening to leave, called my mum telling her that my bro was becoming unfaithful and threatened she would leave. She would later escalate problem to dad who talked her out of it, where was she going at 10pm with a six month old baby. If she wanted to go she could leave in the morning, to which she obliged. But the drama would not end at that, she wouldn’t let him touch the baby, and wouldn’t even share the bed with him. That day she slept in the sitting room. In the morning, a small convincing and things were back to normal as if nothing had happened

Things were calm for a while until again she started suspecting my bro of grooving with a neighbor’s daughter, who according to bro, they only met often on their way home and had nothing more. She would confront them one evening, insult the girl accusing her of being a husband snatcher. That day there was chaos in the house, with her trying to force him to speak but he did not see anything to speak about, since he was not guilty. When he was fed up he took his jacket to go out but she wouldn’t let him. She blocked his way. Bro slapped her, she tried to fight back. That’s where all hell broke loose. It turned violent till she surrendered. She would call my parents again and report of the infidelity accusations. He did not even leave anymore, good thing the baby was asleep. That day, to create drama she slept in the bathroom. Bro ignored her and slept in the bedroom.

That violence started becoming a normal thing in most arguments; her trying to force him into a conversation and him telling her off leading to an exchange. Most times she would get verbally abusive provoking him further, telling him to take the househelp too if he wants, or the neighbor. Funny thing is that when they’re in good terms she is the clingy type, wanting to show off to everybody. Even after arguments, when all is settled you wouldn’t believe they were the ones fighting the previous night. But bro says he’s fed up and wants out.
Now here comes the challenge, no matter what he does, she won’t go. He has tried sleeping outside, ignoring her, everything, personally those are the things I would have asked him to try. She only has issues when things are hot but ok later. But she is very unpredictable. She usually gets abusive and drama is her second name.

Swali ni, what can a man do to make a wife leave. It gets to a point you get tired of the tension and the drama. Even the fighting is not healthy for the kid. or is this a normae l thing and he should just give it time. how much drama have you entertained as a man and how much is too much

If you love your life never hit anyone ! Dont even try , of course you r stronger than them. But , people die easily coz of hidden life healthy issues, if you hit someone n he or she dies, expect a ‘Jowie’ like treatment, kenyans wont take time to understand n certainly Hajji will not care to!