sani
April 25, 2019, 2:08pm
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TrumanCapote:
So last night I had a late dinner out with a relative. She just walked out of her Nth marriage. She was married or is still married now separated to a pastor who had a daughter before they met and she also has kids from previous marriages. So she was telling me what happened and after like 2 hours of her doing all the talking and breaking down occasionally, I asked her, a pertinent question ,I think. Isnt it time she just gave up on marriage/men altogether since she doesnt seem to be lucky in love and just focus on her kids and other aspects of life? Basically the passie was living in her house coz she couldnt downgrade to his hood, to me this is the first mistake women make, tryna bring a man up to speed so that he can fit into your lifestyle or class. Live your life(your standard of life) and let them live theirs stop trying to mix water and oil. This is just counter intuitive because I know men end up resenting your ‘help/generosity’ after umejitolea kuwainua kimaisha . Take or leave a person as is, kama mtu hatoshi mboga stop tryna make the person tosha the mboga. It never works and this my dear lady is the evidence that it either works or it doesnt you cant make anything work juu relationship sio jiko ya makaa the more you pepeta the more inawaka. After all marriage isnt the be all and end all of life. There’s so much more to life, if that aspect of life aint working out for yah. Why kill yourself trying? She is about 15 years older than me. I told her Elizabeth Taylor had 9 husbands and in the end she had to accept marriage wasnt for her and live her life - the sunset years of her life as a single woman after spending the better part of her life tryna make multiple untenable marriages work and they didnt. So after the depressing 2 hours of diatribe after diatribe of men problems , I was like Child!!! I am not doing this again, its too depressing and a total waste of time and energy.Na misiba ya kujitakia hauna pole. Its basically like the same script different cast every time.Ni vile tuu damu ni nzito kuliko maji so I had to be there for her .You start with low quality raw material then think it will transform into something great magically . Reality is a bitch , it doesnt. I understand some people see relationships with the opposite sex like a drug, so no matter how much harm it does to you,your kids,the people who truly love you and other aspects of your life hey gotta get your fix ! The way I see relationships is the same way I see everything else in life if the cost far outweighs the benefits, am out. Life is too short to waste my life energy on shit that doesnt add value to my life. Wacha watu waongee wakichoka watalala because at the end of the day they wont help you pay the price of being in an unfulfilling and toxic relationship/marriage. Its not that hard to ‘go your own way’ and the older you get and the more set you become in your ways the easier it becomes. Being a woman is not a life sentence to suffering . Suffering because of men and marriage(s). If it works for yah great, if not focus on other things. Dont kill yourself tryna MAKE IT WORK bcz you believe women are meant to take shit. You take shit because you choose to . Period! The tenacity some women have is really mind boggling to me because I get tired and give up very fast myself and I like simple life anything that complicates my life gets the toss. I am like mtu hanilishi alafu I have to put up with all kind of bullshit from such an inconsequential person? Nah! Its never that serious! Hii maisha ni fupi sana.If you have food,a house,clothes,no cancer , no problems, why go out on a limb, looking for trouble? Appreciate what God has blessed you with na maisha iendelee. What you dont have haikua riziki yako. Simple. Its just a matter of deciding this is no longer a part of my life and making peace with that fact. Very simple.
Wewe mwenyewe ungekua happily married haungekua hapa kwa kijini yelling about your god every minute. You spend all your free time here. You are not in a healthy relationship. You are not the right person to offer relationship advice. Please
Marriage isnt for everyone. try it once or twice (if you want) and if it dont work out, accept that it wasnt ment for you. In any case, she doesnt have to get married. she has grown children and is way past menopause. She should either have a come-we-stay or just have the jamaa on the side. She should be beyond marriage
TrumanCapote:
So last night I had a late dinner out with a relative. She just walked out of her Nth marriage. She was married or is still married now separated to a pastor who had a daughter before they met and she also has kids from previous marriages. So she was telling me what happened and after like 2 hours of her doing all the talking and breaking down occasionally, I asked her, a pertinent question ,I think. Isnt it time she just gave up on marriage/men altogether since she doesnt seem to be lucky in love and just focus on her kids and other aspects of life? Basically the passie was living in her house coz she couldnt downgrade to his hood, to me this is the first mistake women make, tryna bring a man up to speed so that he can fit into your lifestyle or class. Live your life(your standard of life) and let them live theirs stop trying to mix water and oil. This is just counter intuitive because I know men end up resenting your ‘help/generosity’ after umejitolea kuwainua kimaisha . Take or leave a person as is, kama mtu hatoshi mboga stop tryna make the person tosha the mboga. It never works and this my dear lady is the evidence that it either works or it doesnt you cant make anything work juu relationship sio jiko ya makaa the more you pepeta the more inawaka. After all marriage isnt the be all and end all of life. There’s so much more to life, if that aspect of life aint working out for yah. Why kill yourself trying? She is about 15 years older than me. I told her Elizabeth Taylor had 9 husbands and in the end she had to accept marriage wasnt for her and live her life - the sunset years of her life as a single woman after spending the better part of her life tryna make multiple untenable marriages work and they didnt. So after the depressing 2 hours of diatribe after diatribe of men problems , I was like Child!!! I am not doing this again, its too depressing and a total waste of time and energy.Na misiba ya kujitakia hauna pole. Its basically like the same script different cast every time.Ni vile tuu damu ni nzito kuliko maji so I had to be there for her .You start with low quality raw material then think it will transform into something great magically . Reality is a bitch , it doesnt. I understand some people see relationships with the opposite sex like a drug, so no matter how much harm it does to you,your kids,the people who truly love you and other aspects of your life hey gotta get your fix ! The way I see relationships is the same way I see everything else in life if the cost far outweighs the benefits, am out. Life is too short to waste my life energy on shit that doesnt add value to my life. Wacha watu waongee wakichoka watalala because at the end of the day they wont help you pay the price of being in an unfulfilling and toxic relationship/marriage. Its not that hard to ‘go your own way’ and the older you get and the more set you become in your ways the easier it becomes. Being a woman is not a life sentence to suffering . Suffering because of men and marriage(s). If it works for yah great, if not focus on other things. Dont kill yourself tryna MAKE IT WORK bcz you believe women are meant to take shit. You take shit because you choose to . Period! The tenacity some women have is really mind boggling to me because I get tired and give up very fast myself and I like simple life anything that complicates my life gets the toss. I am like mtu hanilishi alafu I have to put up with all kind of bullshit from such an inconsequential person? Nah! Its never that serious! Hii maisha ni fupi sana.If you have food,a house,clothes,no cancer , no problems, why go out on a limb, looking for trouble? Appreciate what God has blessed you with na maisha iendelee. What you dont have haikua riziki yako. Simple. Its just a matter of deciding this is no longer a part of my life and making peace with that fact. Very simple.
If you can put up with me not reading text like this without paragraphs then tuko sawa
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