I disagree

[Kigui]

Children need both parents throughout their growth. Between 0 and 3, they mostly need the mother for biological needs. They also need to bond with both parents for subsequent stages. Between ages 3 and 7/8 kids get their character. Boys will tend to identify with the father and will copy anything he does, but they also need their mums for affirmation. On the same vein girls will copy their mothers and identify themselves as female but also need affirmation from their fathers. Preteens are the final stages when you firm up the character and set up a firm stage for teenagers. At teenage, a kid is less willing to listen to parents. They are more willing to listen to fellow teens and adults who are willing to listen to them. Older teens and adults can play this role its called ‘role models’.

Now, any good single parent can use this model to bring up good kids. Its a community effort. Human beings were meant to live a communal life. Lock up a guy/gal in solitary confinement and you will have a vegetable a few months later.

[Etigere]

@It's Le Scumbag

Brare gunia

[system]

singo mothers walianza kale. moving on swiftly, boys need male figures around them to inspire on being men else they will end up being faggots. The make up regiment, selfies, sexy clothes and what not from thw singo mom will only reinforce the idea that the a* hole is a boy pucci.

[montecarlo]

@Ka-Buda

I totally disagree.
A boy needs a male figure. Women can do a perfect job raising and providing for a boy but only a father is capable of teaching a boy manly responsibilities, guiding and guarding him as he does so.
Being a man is all about taking and managing risks.
Women cannot deal with risks so are incapable of teaching survival skills that come with being Male.

Can we categorize this as a personal opinion?

[Notorious_B]

It’s compulsory to grow old but it’s an option to grow up!!
As well, it’s compulsory to be a male(boy child) but it’s an option to be a gentleman.
If you aint man enough,Read the better man project for shapeup!

[mikel]

If at all you were raised in ocha (pre- 90s) dont dare tell us you were raised by a single mum. Your uncles, neighbours and other males were on hand to give you some direction.

[Ka-Buda]

@montecarlo

Can we categorize this as a personal opinion?

Everyone is entitled to my own opinion!
Kikikikkkk…

[veved]

@Riva

Problem would be if the mother is one of those slay queens whose sense of self is defined by the size of their ass and therefore they have to keep taking photos of themselves three times a day while making duck faces to remind themselves how hot they are. Thats where we have a problem because the boy will most likely learn how to make duck faces, pose like a slay queen, and basically be a little bi*ch.
But if the mother is like my late mum (MSRIP) a boy will grow up good.
Some people have fathers but those fathers aren’t any useful in terms of teaching their sons how to be men (…or are actually bad examples of how to be men).

Even those bad fathers give someone an opportunity to learn how not to be like them

[Greedy_Genius]

What entails being a man? Wearing masculinity on the sleeves? Men are not made, men are born.

[system]

@gashwin

Being a man is about having the right values. I think my mama did a good job.

Good value uh. Like mounting your cousin’s wife while he was away serving the nation. Are these the “good values” mwalim

[system]

@Etigere

I’ve taken many lessons from my old man, i’m talking of a guy who’d show up visiting day with a news paper cash and himself, used to hate that but it was meant to harden a young man.

you are lucky mine never even showed up. Would wire the pocket money thro a teacher .Actually one time he showed up and I didn’t even know he was around. Siku kama hizo nilikuaga tu nalala kama paka huko dormitory… kinda felt bad vile hatukumeet. Never felt neglected cus during holidays me and him really bonded over projects.

[gashwin]

@A.G.

Good value uh. Like mounting your cousin’s wife while he was away serving the nation. Are these the “good values” mwalim

Have you ever made an error of judgement in a hot (pun fully intended!)? I rest my case.

[system]

@Etigere

I’ve taken many lessons from my old man, i’m talking of a guy who’d show up visiting day with a news paper cash and himself, used to hate that but it was meant to harden a young man.

My first visiting day as a form 1 hawakukuja, afadhali wewe uliletewa gatheti

[Etigere]

@Deorro

My first visiting day as a form 1 hawakukuja, afadhali wewe uliletewa gatheti

I started boarding in class five, so i got used to such life.

[Barueri]

@sodamadiaba

…grease monkey

I hope they were greasing your monkey too… you know, dipping the oilstick