KINDLY ADVICE---REALLY NEED YOUR TAKE ON THESE.

[system]

@Diffre

I think you are one stingy doctor(two months notice and u part with half the amount requested?)
or should I call it financial discipline?:D:D

Financial discipline is the word. I’ll not mess up my budget to please anyone.

[system]

@kush yule mnono

I dont think this bill will see the light of the day, there are genuine cases but most of the relatives might take advantage of the situation

You forget the famed ‘tyranny of numbers’ my friend.

[DI_TICHA]

This is a sober thread for once bila threats na matusi, for that kunywa shai kwa birr yangu. “When your parents raise you up its not a favour they are doing to you but its an obligation and it should not be like you owe them.”
@kush yule mnono …hehehe…hapo kwa shai mi hukunywa Kikombe kubwa na Lazima mandathi…I like, your advice as well thanks…

[system]

@danji1

Is the 10% tithe for a year’s total earnings or monthly earnings? Can it instead be channeled to a children’s home instead of passing through the church?

10% p.m on monthly earnings still works out to 10% p.a on annual earnings.

[DI_TICHA]

@Luther12

I aver that you gave quite the appropriate advice. Here’s what I did to set boundaries: from very early on I made it absolutely clear that anyone who wants cash from me MUST give a two months notice. Even then, I don’t fund everything. And I absolutely don’t mind if anyone hates me really, I always say I’m not in the business of making friendships.

One other trick, whatever money/assistance one asks for, NEVER give 100%. Always give max. 50% (within reason). Always.

That said, there’s a bill currently in parliament that seeks to make you criminally liable for neglecting your aged and/or disabled relatives. It proposes to make such neglect notifiable to the authorities by people such as local administrators, doctors, etc, making the of fence punishable by a 5yr jail term. The bill is now at the public participation stage.

@Luther12 i think these worth trying…am sure the inpatient ones will come up with storos of how unhelpful you are and go there way…which on the second hand its a big relief on the wallet…2 MONTHS NOTICE IT IS…Heheheh…THanks

[DI_TICHA]

@Diffre

He needs to begin to invest in his future.
the parents have already lived their lives,i mean unless they(parents)lack basic needs(food,shelter&cloths);they gotta let their kids grow their future.
kesi baadaye

Couldn’t agree more…THanks

[kush_yule_mnono]

@Luther12

You forget the famed ‘tyranny of numbers’ my friend.

Thats true dagitare but remember most of the legislators have neglected their own including their own parents, ikiwa sheria wengi wao wataumia

[DI_TICHA]

@ol monk

Dont be surprised that some parents got children mainly as a life insurance/pension policy.

I think they should limit their generosity if it stands in the way of pursuing their dreams.

@ol monk which i believe is a bad thing…and really exists in us africans dont know why…them kids need to have a great live as well and live big to their dreams…Perfect…they should limit their generosity…

[Supu_don]

giving money to your (our) paros shouldnt be mandatory but a genuine gesture it should be done without conditions and only when circumstances allow…e.g no one expects anything from me in May, Jan & Sept…i made it clear to everybody and for the rest of the months, its upto me…alternatively just do grocery shopping once a month …giving money to paros is not the same as giving to siblings…

[DI_TICHA]

@aviator

Always stick to this rule regarding sharing your salary! or earnings.

10% flat on tithe
30% minimum on savings (inc education plan or life cover)
30% max on rent and bills
20% charity (parents, friends, orphans. etc)
10% unajitreat.

If the 20% isn’t good enough for the parents, too bad. Give it to someone who appreciates like a children’s home.

@aviator I Love the ratings but hapo kwa Tithe…Aaaiiiii…Sijui mbona mi huwa na different opinion about it…These pastors are enriching themselves with our money and are out there for business as opposed to spreading Gods word as they pupport…I believe in helping the Less fortunate whenever i come across em or better still can be added to ones savings…My thought though but totally agree on the rest

[aviator]

@danji1

Is the 10% tithe for a year’s total earnings or monthly earnings? Can it instead be channeled to a children’s home instead of passing through the church?

10% of whatever you earn, be it daily, weekly, monthly or yearly. Comes to the same thing. For businessmen, it is calculated on profit, not revenue. You can opt to pay profoma tithe monthly, then you balance your books with God after you do the end-year P&L.

This shouldn’t be channeled anywhere else. God doesn’t give us that option.

[DI_TICHA]

@MBOMB

Lets cut the crap first…So who are you, your friend on his brother?

@MBOMB o_Oo_Oo_Oo_Oo_Oo_Oo_O…your point exactly??? Make it clear buddy…

[aviator]

@DI TICHA

…These pastors are enriching themselves with our money and are out there for business as opposed to spreading Gods word as they pupport…

That should be the least of your worries. Whatever the pastor does with the tithe is a matter between them and their God. If you feel your pastor is abusing the tithe, move to a different church and tithe there, but whatever the case, don’t withhold it or divert it to what you think is a better cause.

[DI_TICHA]

@Electronics4u

Somber thread by @DI TICHA: (has your account been hacked?)…anayway weka mbisha ama uingie kwa HOYA.

@Electronics4u …Good Morning these afternoon Sir,…
First, My account has not been hacked…and Mbisha ntatry but the advices will really, really help coz i know a brother somewhere will Live bila regrets on whatever decisions he makes…Plus for once its good to be sobber minded…doesnt hurt…ama…???

[Electronics4u]

@DI TICHA

.Plus for once its good to be sobber minded…doesnt hurt…ama…???

sawa Babaa…Pewa Ugali madodo kwa bill changu…

[DI_TICHA]

@Razmuz

I almost feel bad spending 15k on a dinner last Friday while people only earn 28k per month, my advise however is to look after yourself first, true relatives in need and charity is good however you need to make sure that it won’t become a repeated cost, people should be able to take care of themselves. Sure I am not that well informed about Kenyan traditions, culture and whatever might be related to this case but I get the feeling that the parents have been using money irresponsibly and that is why they are in this situation, ask the mother to start working, regardless of her income it will become a help.

@Razmuz why feel bad and you are using 15g’s coz u can afford…??? You living your life buddy, plus let alone earning 28g’s…guys are out there earning nothing and sleeping hungry…but hey, should it hold us back in living our lives???NO…Coz am pretty sure you got your values ,believes and principles if you come across one…On our kenyan culture i dont think it dictates anything when it comes to money and families but what i know most africans live on pre-installed society expectations…

[DI_TICHA]

@Supu don

giving money to your (our) paros shouldnt be mandatory but a genuine gesture it should be done without conditions and only when circumstances allow…e.g no one expects anything from me in May, Jan & Sept…i made it clear to everybody and for the rest of the months, its upto me…alternatively just do grocery shopping once a month …giving money to paros is not the same as giving to siblings…

Ok…thats nice…but am so curious why May, Jan and Sept…whats special about the months??? I LIKE

[Cypher254]

@aviator

Always stick to this rule regarding sharing your salary! or earnings.

10% flat on tithe
30% minimum on savings (inc education plan or life cover)
30% max on rent and bills
20% charity (parents, friends, orphans. etc)
10% unajitreat.

If the 20% isn’t good enough for the parents, too bad. Give it to someone who appreciates like a children’s home.

Hio tithe ongeza kwa charity… sadaka tosha.

[Mwenyewe]

@Supu don

no one expects anything from me in May, Jan & Sept…

guess ni nyakati za kulipa karo za shule hizi

[Supu_don]

@Mwenyewe

guess ni nyakati za kulipa karo za shule hizi

True that…