Life Decisions (Bachelors)

bjurmann · July 31, 2016, 4:06pm

Machungu gani chef bonoko?

M2Random · July 31, 2016, 4:13pm

Kama hauna any of these na umeoa ama unapanga kuoa mwanamke amezalia ndume ingine, you have a low IQ.

Single dad
Old guy (Above 45 yrs)
Sterile (Huwezi zalisha)
If you dont have any of that baggage na uoe single mother wewe ni mjinga…no excuses.

Ka-Buda · July 31, 2016, 4:31pm

These guys sound like they are being too Extreme in their views But it takes Experience to bring out this characteristic out of these two guys.
No Sane man wants to be Old and single but the modern women are turning “Good” men into misogynistic Extremists.
That is why i agree with them because it takes going through this kind of thing to know.

It_s_Le_Scumbag · July 31, 2016, 4:39pm

Aaaiii @bjurman nikii mani? Whats with the mafeelings?

SultBen · July 31, 2016, 4:42pm

It’s a decision when a man marries a woman who is without child?
But when he marries a single mother that is not a decision? Your argument is as stale as last year’s bread. Know what you’re saying and stick to it.

This debate about single mothers is utter bullshit if you ask me.
Whether she was raped, widowed, divorced or the man vanished, a mother will always look out for the best interest of her assets(child/ren). That you should know, just like in any business.

As long as someone doesn’t continually come to you for financial help, let them be. After all, maneno ya wapendanao huwezi yaingilia, as my cousin says.

Any man making a decision to marry a single mother knows what he is getting himself into. They will have courted for a while, with the child in the picture. He will have done his math, by the time he decides to settle down. The only unacceptable thing is when a woman deliberately hides her child so as to ensnare a man. Not cool.

For the anti-single mothers’ campaigners, unless you are able to change societal shortfalls, unless you are able to turn back time and find a ways of eliminating premarital sex and the consequential baggage, unless you have no baggage of your own, unless you don’t have sex,premarital or extramarital, multiple sexual partners and what not, cease your convoluted thinking. Stop pushing it down everyone’s throat.
No one stopped you from doing due diligence on the woman you wanted to marry.

Talk about single fathers for once, or deadbeat parents…

Lucky_Luciano · July 31, 2016, 4:51pm

SultBen:

It’s a decision when a man marries a woman who is without child?
But when he marries a single mother that is not a decision? Your argument is as stale as last year’s bread. Know what you’re saying and stick to it.

This debate about single mothers is utter bullshit if you ask me.
Whether she was raped, widowed, divorced or the man vanished, a mother will always look out for the best interest of her assets(child/ren). That you should know, just like in any business.

As long as someone doesn’t continually come to you for financial help, let them be. After all, maneno ya wapendanao huwezi yaingilia, as my cousin says.

Any man making a decision to marry a single mother knows what he is getting himself into. They will have courted for a while, with the child in the picture. He will have done his math, by the time he decides to settle down. The only unacceptable thing is when a woman deliberately hides her child so as to ensnare a man. Not cool.

For the anti-single mothers’ campaigners, unless you are able to change societal shortfalls, unless you are able to turn back time and find a ways of eliminating premarital sex and the consequential baggage, unless you have no baggage of your own, unless you don’t have sex,premarital or extramarital, multiple sexual partners and what not, cease your convoluted thinking. Stop pushing it down everyone’s throat.
No one stopped you from doing due diligence on the woman you wanted to marry.

Talk about single fathers for once, or deadbeat parents…

Hata ukiandika novel, its a known fact kuoa single mums ni stupid mistake. Those guys i know who’ve married single mums live very miserable lives.

M2Random · July 31, 2016, 4:51pm

Please note that in case of marriage failure, which is almost a guarantee when you marry a single mum, you will have to pay child support even if the children are not yours. Can you imagine dating a single mum of two kids, living with her for a year, divorcing, and then the government forces you to pay for child support for two strangers you did not sire. Whichever way you look at it, single mums are baggage that every single man without children should avoid.

Ka-Buda · July 31, 2016, 4:53pm

SultBen:

It’s a decision when a man marries a woman who is without child?
But when he marries a single mother that is not a decision? Your argument is as stale as last year’s bread. Know what you’re saying and stick to it.

This debate about single mothers is utter bullshit if you ask me.
Whether she was raped, widowed, divorced or the man vanished, a mother will always look out for the best interest of her assets(child/ren). That you should know, just like in any business.

As long as someone doesn’t continually come to you for financial help, let them be. After all, maneno ya wapendanao huwezi yaingilia, as my cousin says.

Any man making a decision to marry a single mother knows what he is getting himself into. They will have courted for a while, with the child in the picture. He will have done his math, by the time he decides to settle down. The only unacceptable thing is when a woman deliberately hides her child so as to ensnare a man. Not cool.

For the anti-single mothers’ campaigners, unless you are able to change societal shortfalls, unless you are able to turn back time and find a ways of eliminating premarital sex and the consequential baggage, unless you have no baggage of your own, unless you don’t have sex,premarital or extramarital, multiple sexual partners and what not, cease your convoluted thinking. Stop pushing it down everyone’s throat.
No one stopped you from doing due diligence on the woman you wanted to marry.

Talk about single fathers for once, or deadbeat parents…

31/7/2016

Maneno Magumu ;

CONVOLUTED.

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karl_marx · July 31, 2016, 5:04pm

M2Random:

One of the biggest challenges for a bachelor is getting a lady to make a family with. However, for the financially stable, there is an even bigger challenge. Most of the time, you will discover that women who “feel” your vibe mostly have children. Before you make the stupid decision of marrying a woman with children that you did not sire, you should do a thorough soul searching. Like it or not, marriage is alot like a business transaction, you have to get as much as you give. Your parents invest in education, you hustle your ass off and you are already a self made millionaire by 25…and that is when you decide to get serious about dating issues. My question is, why would you even consider marrying a woman who was busy getting screwed while you were investing in your future? Why should you raise another man’s children? Single mothers are good…only for the sex. My opinion is that any young man, financially stable or not, should not waste his life with a woman who has brought forth another man’s offspring. If you have to marry a single mum, make sure you bring similar baggage to the table such as being a single dad, being infertile or being old (above 45). If you dont have any of the aforementioned baggage and decide to foolishly marry a single mum, you will be throwing away your life. It is that simple. It is expensive to raise children, and you will be sacrificing your income to raise another man’s kids, who will often remind you that you are not their father, and there is a high chance the father will come back for them only to be left after doing all the work. Women can be very conniving, and the level of scheming that single mothers orchestrate is mind blowing. If you want to live a miserable life, toiling for ungrateful bastards at the expense of your own happiness, go ahead and marry a single mum. The cause of her single motherhood does not matter. Just make sure that it is another fool who bears that burden, not you.

Only marry a single mother if she is Bill Gates’ daughter. That is, a definite heiress to an unimaginable fortune. Otherwise it’s quite idiotic to get married on Saturday and on Monday it’s school fees.
The saying ‘love conquers all’ is a trap meant to snare the uninitiated. Love doesn’t conquer anything…unless it’s parental love. What, in almost 90% of cases, is called ‘love’ is nothing but strategies, opportunism and search for identity. The jobless dude who is now roaming the streets of Nairobi cannot get love. If luck strikes him and he lands a 400k/month job, he will get tons and tons of ‘love’ from very ‘caring’ women.
Barring your parents, no one can love you unconditionally. Don’t also love unconditionally. If you haven’s sowed wild oats, don’t clean up the mess of other morons.
NB very very carefully: most women are impregnated by bad boys who then disappear and then expect the ‘nice’ caring men to clean up the mess by being dads to their bastards. Keep in mind that these women wouldn’t have looked at the ‘nice’ men twice when they were at their prime.

Ka-Buda · July 31, 2016, 5:09pm

Only marry a single mother if she is Bill Gates’ daughter. That is, a definite heiress to an unimaginable fortune. Otherwise it’s quite idiotic to get married on Saturday and on Monday it’s school fees.
The saying ‘love conquers all’ is a trap meant to snare the uninitiated. Love doesn’t conquer anything…unless it’s parental love. What, in almost 90% of cases, is called ‘love’ is nothing but strategies, opportunism and search for identity. The jobless dude who is now roaming the streets of Nairobi cannot get love. If luck strikes him and he lands a 400k/month job, he will get tons and tons of ‘love’ from very ‘caring’ women.
Barring your parents, no one can love you unconditionally. Don’t also love unconditionally. If you haven’s sowed wild oats, don’t clean up the mess of other morons.
NB very very carefully: most women are impregnated by bad boys who then disappear and then expect the ‘nice’ caring men to clean up the mess by being dads to their bastards. Keep in mind that these women wouldn’t have looked at the ‘nice’ men twice when they were at their prime.

I have Always shared your point of view and in this case;You took the words Right out of my Mouth.
I just hope that these young niggas here read and take heed of such valuable advise.
But these young Niggaz just don`t know.
Watalilia kwa choo for their stupidity.

Pseudonyms · July 31, 2016, 5:11pm

Fuck! The story of my life, word for fucking word!

incognitus · July 31, 2016, 5:12pm

The best woman to marry (not ferk) is a virgin. If by some unfortunate circumstances you don’t find a virgin you go to the next best thing, a non virgin(low mileage) with no kids. Single mothers or any woman raised by a single mother is a no no in terms of marriage. There could be a few exemptions here and there but very few.

M2Random · July 31, 2016, 5:16pm

Leta hekaya

Jakoyo · July 31, 2016, 5:18pm

My buddy married single woman - She had a daughter from previous one night stand. They went on to have 3 sons and one more daughter. They are very proud parents living comfortable on the 15 acre farm in Kitengela

Jakoyo · July 31, 2016, 5:20pm

Single mothers are good and know how lucky they are to find a good man to marry them. Most don’t even want dowry manenos. They work extra had to make their marriage work. Just make sure na wewe umepanda mbegu. All will be well.

Rene_Descartes · July 31, 2016, 5:37pm

I am not married, but your attitude is too vile. Most single mothers are not good I must say. I cant stand another man’s kid even for a minute, but this is just a choice. I dont think those who do that are scum.

karl_marx · July 31, 2016, 5:38pm

Your point of view generally sounds reasonable. Problem with it is this: such women only work hard in marriage in order to have father figures for their kids not because they love their men.
Bottom line is this; why can’t women simply learn not to open their legs to every guy out there and most of these problems will be eliminated.
Must women first learn their lesson before becoming ‘good single mothers ready to marry?’
Must everyone wait to acquire HIV/AIDS in order to learn lessons about prudence in sexual matters??

bjurmann · July 31, 2016, 5:39pm

They are stupid. Wewe Ni bachelor kwa nini uoe baggage? Kwani huna akili? Love? Love ama uchawi?

Rene_Descartes · July 31, 2016, 5:45pm

I will say this, I wouldn’t marry a single mother and I wouldnt marry a woman I dont want even if she gives birth. Even though single mothers are nono for me, I think that there are actually no “good” women. All women, especially these days, are a huge liability. Kwa ndoa unaingia ukijua ni shida tupu tu.

123tokambio · July 31, 2016, 5:49pm

Sasa wewe na wale red necks wenye hawapendi Non-whites kuna tofauti gani? Au turudi tu nyumbani, wale wazazi who insist kaa dame/jamaa si kabila lao hawataki. Coz honestly yako ni chuki towards single mothers.
If i was to advice a young single man, i would only tell him to tread carefully and make good judgement, lakini sio kumtusi ati juu anapanga kuoa single mother