Very true.So, would mpango wa kando solve the issue ie the man gets sex that he wants and the woman is not bothered…Is that the deal you are offering…?
In the earlier days men married 2 or more wives which seemed to solve this problem but the todays woman doesn’t want a second wife…what are your thoughts on that?
Polygamy has its own challenges. Our parents were monogamous, how were our fathers coping? Did they all get MWK, in life atyms you must sacrifice. And our parents were good at self sacrifice unlike this generation who are very selfish. If you want sex you must get it now now ama you go get it elsewhere. So you need to have self control as a man. Sex is not oxygen that you can die from reducing it.
If you talk to many married men this is rarely the case even one of them claimed to have sex twice a month!! Does this mean women are stressed 310 days a year? Masking the truth of the root cause of problem does much more damage because it avoids addressing the issue.
And if that’s true that women can’t handle stress brought about by employment, does this mean that men are more suited for working and overall, the woman will be happier at home. You know, washing dishes and taking care of the kids???
As time goes, the modern woman is going to face more trouble since she is not suited for the career life… meanwhile traditional women ie from a village in coastal province are taught about marriage and how to take care of a man and the family looks as a safe bet to a man.
I personally admit that I know it will feel great coming from work and walking home to a happy woman who is not stressed by her boss/projects etc.
Learn to summarize your posts, unaandika essay ya 4 pages, si uko na bidii ama you are just crazy.
You are so sensitive, very thin skinned
The gynocracy system has been hacked and destroyed to smithereens by red pill philosophy. Most men once they discover the RED PILL philosophy have only three options 1) accept female nature and go MGTOW ,2) try and negotiate a good deal with women but we all know how that goes/ MRA men,and finally the third men who will still serve the gynocracy to his sure and certain death/ boiling the frog syndrome.Women have pushed men into a corner and only two result s are expected ,be free or die trying ,or be slayed by the gynocracy for your entire existence on Earth.Finally why do all women hate MGTOW but they are “independent, successful and better than men” ,SEMA contradiction galore.
Well, households need two incomes and also men bcm tyrants when they are the sole bread winner its also risky incase of death or debility or lose of job or business failure to have one bread winner.
The ideal situation would be the woman raises the kids and have a job that isn’t very demanding or a small business. However stark realities of the economy make this a near impossibility.
Hormonal contraceptives are not good, they increase estrogen and mimic pregnancy to curtail ovulation. So that means unlike a natural woman who ovulate abt 2 weeks or so in a month and even after periods their libido is fine the safe days. Only during period and the week before is their libido affected.
Also being overworked esp when kids are small affects. Moms also get affected more if the kid is ill or having any problems bcz of the mother child bond. The hormones of mothering atyms extinguish female libido too. The hormones released after child birth. Also atyms men are not good at foreplay and giving women orgasms especially in the comfort of committed relationships so the sexual frustration makes women switch off and it bcms another chore like cleaning the toilet. So this issue of sex less marriage is multifaceted. Women are very sexual beings but unfortunately they are treated like sexual objects or sex dispensers in married life. So it kills sexual desire in women. Just imagine if you are always making your woman cum but after that she never bothers to finish you and this can go on for years, won’t it make you feel used and even lead you to hate sex? So that is where majority women are especially married women. Who does not want orgasms? If you are givingyour wife good foreplay, after play and guaranteed orgasms why on earth will she decline your advances? But if there is nothing in it for her, of course interest will disappear. Research shows 80% or more women do not have orgasms. So let us not say Sijui it’s bcz the man is beta bucks that the woman does not want sex, orgasms and good sex haijui alfa mails or better male. Men who know this secret continue sleeping with their exes even after the exe gets married to a very alfa mail bcz it’s very rare to find a man who understands female sexuality and who treats women like sexual beings that needs orgasms rather than just sex objects and sex dispensers. So these blanket condemnations without really interrogating the root causes all they do is just to make women scapegoats with out adressing the real issues.
:rolleyes:,SEMA tu sex is a tool women use to manipulate beta males to being good plantation boys,women fuck AMG members like pornstars na asubuhi Anameza p2 Kama njugu na hasumbui na ma emotions mingi , marriage is a diminishing returns investment for men,never marry!!!
Well, as it were if all women withdrew from the workforce male labor is insufficient to make up for the deficit. Since God was not checking gender before handing out brains and talents that means that the female doctors, researchers and artists name it. It is not that women are not suited for the market place. It’s that the demands at home are too much for the working woman, since traditional gender roles are still upheld in the home yet men and women are working equally outside of the home atyms even more than the man. Women can not leave the workforce so the only solution is how to manage work related stress and also greater involvement of men in the household chores like playing with the kids,bathing them which helps with bonding, watching them and feeding them or putting them to bed as the woman does other chores so that she is not too tired to have sex by bedtime.
Its dangerous to have a house wife bcz incase you die or lose your job what will happen to your kids. I’ve seen men who marry illiterate women who will worship them then the man dies and his kids are left destitute. It’s very dangerous to rely on one partner for income. I’ve seen it IRL. So men need to stop being myopic and too selfish and just vumilia ups and downs of not getting what they want. Marriage is about compromise and self sacrifice so if you are not ready to sacrifice your sexual gratification maybe marriage isn’t for you.In marriage children are number one not you the man or the woman, so two working parents is what is more secure for your kids. Monogamous marriage is what is best for your kids. You have it twisted if you believe that because you are the man of the house your needs come first and are the most important in that house. Have you seen how much people sacrifice for their kids. A man can be having one suit and never eat lunch for his kids benefit so if you all you think is your selfish gratification, marriage isn’t for you. You don’t get married for yourself to get your needs to be met better. No! You get married to make a good home for your offspring. That is where modern men get it wrong. Marriage is never about you, your selfish needs, your sexual needs, your emotional needs, you, you, you! So it’s time modern men grow up and understand what marriage is for. It’s not about your happiness and your sexual satisfaction it is a project that you invest in that will outlive you. Even the Bible says, a righteous man leaves an inheritance to his children s children. It is a place of giving and sacrificing the self, our personal needs for something greater that will outlive us, our posterity. That is why the criteria our parents used to pick a partner is how good a parent they can be, how much they can benefit their common offspring not what is making them happy as individuals.
@Shemeji_x ,Ingia pale YouTube tafuta video ya coach Greg Adams ya two income trap,and you will understand why working women and marriage Don’t mix
Made some good points in the incomes scenario … But many working women have househelps. Anyway me thinks the solution is to add another wife who doesn’t work and stays home with the kids while the two of you work:D:D. That way you still keep the two incomes flowing and the man gets sex and the working wife is given a bedroom where she isn’t bothered :D:D:D.
Secondly the redpill movement teaches men on how to be attractive to a woman and also how to satisfy a woman sexually.
Hence my wonder of why women are against that. We know the primal origin of sex.
The reason why the blue pill (beta male)
Struggle to get sex from their wives is because they don’t know how to be attractive to women and think that women
Will accept them for who they are and that it’s a woman’s duty to give sex as per the marriage contract. We both know affection cannot be negotiated, it’s primal and so the red pulled man will know that he has to keep working on himself to win affection of his wife is by getting in shape and other little things that wet panties whereas the beta male will go on a shopping spree buying flowers, cars etc thinking he can buy affection of the wife??
I think the blue pilled men are the ones who treats women as sex objects by expecting sex in exchange for resources, so if anything, the red pulled men are the true romantics.
Yes great point marriage isn’t about a woman interest either. In your previous statements you clearly leaning towards the needs of a woman, talking about the percentage of woman who don’t have orgasm? Why then when it comes to male sexual interests it is considered selfish?
Come on, women have joined the workforce just less than 150 years ago and here in Kenya less than 50yrs. All along we have been fine.
And in in terms of income, if the workforce shrinks due to exit of the females, the pay will go up , you know, supply and demand hence one person’s income will be enough for the household.
You have ignored a point I have made. That of sexual satisfaction for women. I have told you according to research over 80% of women do not get good foreplay, orgasms with every sex act and after play. You can be very attractive with six packs but if you are not satisfying her, she will be tempted to return to her exe who was satisfying her sexually who isn’t even as good looking as you are . Humans are motivated to do things for others wen there is something in it for them. If you are giving the woman orgasms which are rare for women according to research you will always have the upper hand. The red peels method is to inspire fear and insecurities in the woman for her to give you sex, which is a very wrong way of doing things. It’s like you want your child to eat so you threaten her maybe by ignoring the child . Fine atakula for the time being but in the long run she may get eating disorder.
Don’t look at the matter simplistically. First off you must accept the fact that you can not get everything you want in life, atyms you must sacrifices of what you want for a greater good. Yes it’s your right to get sex whenever you want it but atyms you must sacrifice for the sake of peace.
Secondly, in life you do not get what you want you get what you negotiate for. Once a young lady came to me complaining her husband comes home late. So I told her you to stop nagging the guy and nil by mouth and other psychological warfare. She should negotiate with him, very calmly. If he gets home past a certain time no sex bcz she will have slept. She can wake up, open for him, warm his food, sit with him till he finishes eating, no attitude, no nagging but wakienda bed arudi kulala. No sex. Bcz ameenjoy huko nje, the lady stare he yake ni kulala, let each respect stare he ya mwenzake. In no time this guy started coming home earlier. So if you want more you also must negotiate for it. Don’t just assume that you will get everything you want on a silver platter. If you want at least once a week. You can set a day. That night if she comes to bed at 10pm you expect her at 9pm, she can cook a simpler dinner and you can help her with the kids so that she’s not as tired as other evenings. Also you can have a date night. Maybe once or twice a month. Women are not like men who get turned on instantly. So it’s better if she knows from in the morning that every Friday night my husband expects sex so she begins to be psychologically prepared for sex thru out the day. Also you can use a psychological technique called anchoring, Wea whenever you have sex night you have a particular scent or particular lighting, these things help the brain the subconscious mind get turned on sexually by association before the act even begins. You can also send a text during the day to her, jokingly asking if you can make love to her tonight. It’s a kind of foreplay and courtship or mating dance and women are big on such preliminaries esp married women bcz of the monotonous nature of marriage and having only one sexual partner. Also spicing up your sex life helps increase sexual desire in women. I agree that women also find dominant men more sexually appealing, that doesn’t mean you bcm abusive as taught by red peels. Bcz safety and security is also necessary for a woman to fully give herself to her partner. Again as I said, moving from the sexual object, sex dispenser, conjugal rights narrative to the woman evolving into a sexual being who is confident enuff sexually to initiate sex and ask for what she wants in bed. Men assume buying things is the aphrodisiac which is not always true esp in long term relationships like marriage. Small, small things like different lighting, different scent, sexting during the day, having designated sex days the same way you have a menu for what you eat, you can have a day assigned for sex and have date night that make your madam feel more desirable. So mambo ni Mengi, kusema watu wawache job ama u get MWK is not an answer bcz all these options present their own set of challenges. What I know is that if you assess any situation critically with no bias you will find away around it.
And btw most women prefer not to delegate cooking, feeding and bathing their kids to househelps.When they’re around
Unfortunately I can no longer remember what blue peels men do other than being nice guys. The thing is that sexual desire to my understanding is evoked by male female differences. So men are more attractive to women when they are more masculine and also women are more attractive when they are more feminine. The more the difference the greater the attraction. Unfortunately in marriage men no longer see the point to take control, they assume that the sex is guaranteed. You don’t need to take any initiative or make demands or do anything to make it more conducive to have sex. Like before they used to sext the lady now no even sexy talks just go to bed and wait there. No taking the initiative. Same to the lady being very masculine like she would be at work which is also somehow repulsive to him. Some men also do not provide which makes them to lose masculinity in the sight of their wives bcz their wife bcms like their mother obviously a woman can’t feel attracted to a man who is like her kid.
I really tried to read but man, do a ferking summary, will ya?
Stupid nonsense. You probably have a pot bellied, unattractive husband mwenye unamvumilia tu alafu unakuja hapa kusema upus wa low libido.
Alpha males know to ignore such drivel. Hot attractive men who maintain their bodies don’t face these problems.