TrumanCapote:
You see if you have no income. You have been moving from one woman’s house to another, what else can you brag about besides your sexual conquests? Broke men have a very fragile ego. In fact she was wise to involve security and other men because it could have turned violent.
There was this madam who was killed in Belgium by a guy she had been harboring for over 10 years. You would think that since he was being done for everything by the madam he could just be relaxed but instead he was womanizing and drinking to excess. A man’s ego will always bother him especially when he is not doing well financially. If you look at the people who like posting their sex escapades here, it’s the broke men. A serious man has alot on his plate than taking photos of naked women and hurrying here to brag oh I dry fried a pilot. Why aren’t those people who are dry frying surgeons bragging about it? Being a pilot is no longer a big deal. Anyb can be a pilot just go to these schools with wazungu kids, their parents drop them off in choppers and small aircrafts. So a broke and idle man must over compensate and assuage his sagging ego coz he’s doing poorly in the areas that really matter which is money, power and respect. You can not even respect yourself if you are being housed by desperate women, no matter what the lady does for you, deep down you will always feel inadequate. That is the real reason behind the cheating, the violence, the drinking and the bragging. To feel like a man again, respected and powerful. Especially in an African context there’s no way, you will live in a woman’s house, drive her car and still feel masculine. Btw this is a huge problem in the black American community. Women have the jobs and the money. Men have criminal records so they can’t find work they have to be left baby sitting as the woman works, so many times they abuse and even kill those kids under their care, coz of the pent up frustration of not being able to go out like other men and work. And bring something to the table.
I’ve dated men who are alot younger than me and they still want to be the man in the relationship. They want to control how things go, they want to scold you if you are out at night and he calls you and doesn’t get you on phone. They don’t want to you to control them and their movements but they want to control yours. They always want the woman to be subordinate. It doesn’t matter if you have more money, you are older, or you are more powerful. There’s no man who wants to be the woman in the relationship. So all these antics are just a passive aggressive way of resistance to feminization. Even in boy children you can see it. My nephew will dominate my house with no apology as though it’s his house, go to all the rooms, you have to watch him every second because he will tear the whole house down if you are not there to stop him or divert his attention. Girl children are not like that, they’re more passive. So in a liberal society like the whites it’s easier on the ego to be a house husband than if you are black. Black American o4r Indigenous African. In a conservative society like ours house husband type of arrangement can not work as it would for say a white couple from a more fluid less rigid culture.
What do you think fuels this emasculation trend, is it a result of tough economic times, women’s empowerment or cultural degeneration of the man as the dominant figure in the relationship? Of course money is at the root of the whole disconnect.