Societal pressure

[kalel]

Marriage with all its excesses is a want and not a need,why should I help a grown ass man pamper his beloved and make her dream come true and I wont partake in reaping the rewards(read dryfry).Mimi huchangia only close friends and relatives

[system]

@Penologist

Una hire aje hexagon moja assuming nitajichukulia kwako na labor Ni yangu

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[system]

@TopCat

Your rates

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[system]

some talker/lister sometime back talked about goat eating. mumesahau hiyo pia

[TopCat]

@Okiya

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Ok

[Mathaais]

@Chiefkiumbe

Na pia ,when u make noise ,u fined

He he, I attended one such stupid fundraiser disguised as a goat eating. At one point the Mc asked everyone to stand up, then he asked the crowd who was the tallest and it so happened to be me. And just like that I was ‘fined’ for being the tallest.

[byro]

I did one crazy “wedding”. My wife claimed she wanted wedding so bad that she “could do away” with me in case i went against her ancestors wish.i got pissed off by that statement. My in-laws were on her side on this that it was against their christian rooted family. okay, i told them i had no problem only under condition. i was to choose the MC, program me activities etc. in short i had the day’s throat on my hands, and what do you do when the day have its hands and evil attention near your butt ready to inject its fingers?? STRANGLE the mafakin day. !!!
so on the so called day, i organised a fucking party, from morning to evening. no pastors, no hired cars, no seats(plenty of mother nature carpet) etc. was just EAT & DANCE. she was sooo mad that she cried (like a cared, i had drowned myself with muratina)!!
we broke up though same day, my parents were proud, village fisis got poor ladies pregnant and i was superman for months.

[system]

@Mathaais

He he, I attended one such stupid fundraiser disguised as a goat eating. At one point the Mc asked everyone to stand up, then he asked the crowd who was the tallest and it do happened to be me. And just like that I was ‘fined’ for being the tallest.

:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

[system]

@byro

I did one crazy “wedding”. My wife claimed she wanted wedding so bad that she “could do away” with me in case i went against her ancestors wish.i got pissed off by that statement. My in-laws were on her side on this that it was against their christian rooted family. okay, i told them i had no problem only under condition. i was to choose the MC, program me activities etc. in short i had the day’s throat on my hands, and what do you do when the day have its hands and evil attention near your butt ready to inject its fingers?? STRANGLE the mafakin day. !!!
so on the so called day, i organised a fucking party, from morning to evening. no pastors, no hired cars, no seats(plenty of mother nature carpet) etc. was just EAT & DANCE. she was sooo mad that she cried (like a cared, i had drowned myself with muratina)!!
we broke up though same day, my parents were proud, village fisis got poor ladies pregnant and i was superman for months.

eish buda

[junkie]

unless ni dowry paymnet

[Mkufuu]

@Bhangi Iwe Huru

Do you remember last week when @msalame grace was on about family being consulted when choosing a husband? That’s why you can’t have a small wedding. His family and he family will scrutinize the guest list and make insinuations about kukaliwa or our family being hated. So you give in and choose have a big wedding. You can’t feed them bread and juice because every time you go to visit them they’ll be talking about how they came to your wedding to eat bread. So you have to have pilau, chicken and tents and a good venue etc etc. Family that is supposed to be supportive will even make noise over who got the better cake. Then what is supposed to be a great day for you and your mate turns out to be stress and debt that will follow you for along time.

Help your friend out and attend the committee. Contribute whatever amount you can. I think there are many couples who simply have to have big weddings because they have no other option. Especially if they are city born and their relative in ocha think money flows on the streets like sewage water.

But the essence of being a free thinking being is to steer clear of pitfalls like financial debts arising from situations like weddings. I know there will no doubt be pressure to have a fabulous wedding from many quarters and if you can afford it well and good. If you can’t, simply don’t give into the pressure, just don’t crack, hold on to your grounds. It’s no use turning into a beggar for no logical reason sending everyone in your phone book texts requesting for support of whatever kind. Even better don’t hold a wedding. My kind of support in these kind of situations is to turn up for the first committee meeting in time and with a fixed contribution in mind based on my budget. For subsequent meetings it will just be apologies galore.

[Jazzman]

@gashwin

This message has been swamping my phone every Sunday and Monday afternoons. I am quoting verbatim but certain details have been redacted for obvious reasons:
[SIZE=6]"[/SIZE]The organizing committee and the family of …humbly reminds you to join us today 31st Aug at …Hotel boardroom at 6.00 pm for our committee meeting of the preparation of the ceremony of annointing Mr. & Mrs …into Apostleship. The ceremony will be held on the coming Saturday 5th Sep at our home in…RSVP 07…, 07…[SIZE=6]"[/SIZE]
[SIZE=4]Their first of the messages was rather surprising because this is a couple who were my neighbours previously but are the type who will not even say hi when you meet on the corridor or car park. One night I had a migrainous headache and couldn’t trace any painkillers in my house and when I knocked on their door the only thing the husband did was ask me “unataka nini?” through the door glass panes although he could clearly see it was me. I had not even known they had my number; perhaps they got it from the caretaker…[/SIZE]

Weka first aid kit kwa nyumba. Ni muhim

[Mkufuu]

@byro

we broke up though same day, my parents were proud, village fisis got poor ladies pregnant and i was superman for months.

Did you choose your parents? LOL:D:D:D:D

[village_robot]

@old monk

In laws yet ata hamjaoana.

Potential inlaws…they like that term especially if you have been dryfrying their daughter for months under the guise that ‘we are married’

[Mkufuu]

@junkie

unless ni dowry paymnet

What will the wife think when she knows you couldn’t afford her dowry… Won’t you be reminded this every time you get into an argument and she is losing?

[Jazzman]

I keep telling the lady who comes to my house and sleeps sometimes, the only way I’ll think of something like a wedding is when I’m comfortable I’m a millionaire

[village_robot]

@Jazzman

I keep telling the lady who comes to my house and sleeps sometimes, the only way I’ll think of something like a wedding is when I’m comfortable I’m a millionaire

And when she is sleeping sometimes unakuwanga wapi? @Jazzman

[Jazzman]

@village robot

And when she is sleeping sometimes unakuwanga wapi? @Jazzman

Hapo kando yake nikiwa ndethe

[Ice_Cube]

@byro

I did one crazy “wedding”. My wife claimed she wanted wedding so bad that she “could do away” with me in case i went against her ancestors wish.i got pissed off by that statement. My in-laws were on her side on this that it was against their christian rooted family. okay, i told them i had no problem only under condition. i was to choose the MC, program me activities etc. in short i had the day’s throat on my hands, and what do you do when the day have its hands and evil attention near your butt ready to inject its fingers?? STRANGLE the mafakin day. !!!
so on the so called day, i organised a fucking party, from morning to evening. no pastors, no hired cars, no seats(plenty of mother nature carpet) etc. was just EAT & DANCE. she was sooo mad that she cried (like a cared, i had drowned myself with muratina)!!
we broke up though same day, my parents were proud, village fisis got poor ladies pregnant and i was superman for months.

hahaha wewe nao uliweza

[trish]

Hahaha on point. Reminds me of that show on TV, My Dream wedding. That albino MP dude did a very expensive ceremony but he said something, “Never let people fund your fantasies”.

Wedding committes and dowry payments’ committees should be done away with. If a guy helps you to marry or ‘pay’ for your wife, then he should be entitled to the p**** share too.

A man should have an ego…