TrumanCapote as much as you’re a misandrist, I like you because you are among the few ladies in here.
Anyway to answer your question, men behave that way because they feel overwhelmed sometimes. Why would you want a man to be calling you after, checking you yet ako na mastress biashara zake. I know you’re probably thinking it’s just a few minutes call but I believe you wouldn’t want someone to call you in a low worried tone. You expect a vigilant romantic tone which real life doesn’t allow.
Couldn’t it just be sex that all of you wanted na iishe hivyo in peace, kama kutakuwa na next time sawa.
He may only do that (shingo upande) if you’re the girlfriend ju relationship huwa ni kazi mob sana.