To younger 20-something men craving female "companionship."

Tyler_Boy · December 7, 2019, 9:18pm

So instead of doing constructive things utakaa chini uanze kusoma wanawake? Mwanamke hana manual ama formula, women don’t operate under the rules of physics or commerce. That’s why they will marry u today while crying in a church full of friends then tear you down tomorrow and divorce rape you in a courthouse full of strangers. Smart men lease vehicles, run down the odometer then park them and get new ones. They dont buy them.

system · December 7, 2019, 11:03pm

To younger men craving female “companionship.”

We get it. Part of you wants to believe in the fantasy. The fantasy that says, she’ll be accepting, giving, loyal, loving, and yes, sexual. Sexual to you and you alone.

You’re young, and naturally crave being close with a woman. How can you look at her mannerisms, her sexually arousing curves/feminine body, her sweet, high pitched voice and not want to believe the fantasy. How can you not want her?

Even if you haven’t been laid yet, the porn you’ve probably surfed on the net helps feed the fantasy…

Well, I’m well into my 30’s and can tell you right here and now…
Mother nature (your testosterone) is compelling you to see what she (Mother Nature) wants you to see, to feel what she wants you to feel. But her agenda isn’t for you to have a “loving, lasting relationship” my young Brother.

Mother Nature’s a BITCH, and her agenda is quite simple. She is creating this physical, psychological trap inside you for the sole purpose in achieving her relentless goal to get you to PROCREATE. To make babies and perpetuate the species.

However, all you’re sensing, all you’re feeling is the groaning desire for the sex, love, companionship and life-long pair-bonding YOU WANT TO BELIEVE THIS CREATURE CAN PROVIDE.

Mother nature, again, the BITCH that she is, is cold as they come. She doesn’t give a flying f**k about hypergamy, horrible divorce law, shitty economies and of course, women’s insidiously callous darker nature.

So how does a young man survive this inner-conflict?
There’s NO EASY, NO COMFORTING ANSWER. But, here’s a couple suggestions:

It’s ok to date women, to have fun with them. After all, it does indeed feel great to lay naked with a woman, smelling her scents, to feel her body against yours, fucking and getting a nice sloppy BJ on a hot February morning. Hell, even to just to hold hands and cuddle in front of a movie.

But make no mistake my young Brother. All of those sweet things listed above ARE FLEETING. THEY NEVER LAST. EVER. SHE WILL USE THESE TO HER ADVANTAGE OVER TIME, GUARAN-FERCKING-TEED.

Again, go ahead and date, get laid, but don’t fall into her (and Mother Nature’s) trap.

She will try and use her sexuality and affections to trap you into marriage. The first few months, you’ll be in pu**y heaven. You may even start thinking she’s “different.” This is where you need to watch your ass.

Always remember. Women are CREATURES OF SURVIVAL and will engage in shockingly callous behaviors to secure their survival agenda, even in our modern time when her survival agenda isn’t needed. It’s just hard wired in. She’ll always be looking for a “better deal” (50% of women in all relationships admit having a back up man they’re grooming, just in case).

As hard as it is to fathom, a woman, once she’s done with you, will gut you in divorce court, devastate you psychologically and walk away without a care in the fucking world. No remorse, no guilt, zero fucking shame. The seemingly sweetest of the sweetest women do this.

This isn’t malicious, it’s hard-wired in. Getting mad and hating women for their darker survivalist nature is like hating sharks or scorpions for theirs. Complete waste of energy. Just suck up the cold, hard truth and act accordingly.

Speaking of sharks, considering getting married is like considering diving into a lagoon full of sharks, wearing a wet-suit made out of flank steak. At the urging of the delusional herd and testosterone coursing through your body, you somehow hope you can enjoy a nice swim and not end up crawling onto shore with the 50% of other dipshits with arms and legs bitten clean off.

Hell, even if you don’t get bit (divorced), how fun is it perpetually treading water with eyes in the back of your fucking head, constantly dodging those insidiously snapping jaws (shit tests, demands and nagging)?

Women will scream until hell freezes over they want a “nice guy.”
It’s complete bullshit. Date women, but instead of the being a pushover, “nice guy.” Be the “lovable asshole.” That unattainable guy that plays his cards close to his chest. She’ll bitch, moan and cry to her friends how she can’t get you to “open up,” which really means she can’t get you under her control. While this does drive her nuts, however, it also makes her sexually engaged. She’ll keep right on sexing you up to try and suck you into her velvet trap.

Use this to your advantage, but remember to respect Mother Nature for the cold, calculating BITCH she is. Don’t get sucked in. Don’t fall in love with a fantasy that will never come true.

Have friends, have hobbies, enjoy women for who and what they are. Have a “plan” for you and own it. Everyone loves a “man with a plan.” Just don’t get sucked into the marriage trap.

FAQ dude…when they will be quoting Plato and Socrates of our generation may gods acknowledge you as among the wisest to have ever walked on this sides of Savannah. Sent to enlighten boy child against his self distructive path.

Azor_Ahai · December 7, 2019, 11:19pm

There is no substitute for common sense. Kama umeelewa hivyo huwezi saidika.

system · December 7, 2019, 11:24pm

Come to think of it…for my fellow wamunyotas…have you ever been into a busy club after 01:39HRS??. Please try it and let’s share notes.
You will experience the instantniation of the life it self.
If you can manage to leave the place alone. Then, you have archived illumination

Strategoi · December 7, 2019, 11:56pm

This is perverse… Marriage is not like a business… hell no! Marriage is a sacramental union. Charity at its very best… risking all for the love of Christ… for Christsake.

Azor_Ahai · December 8, 2019, 12:00am

Opinions. Everyone has his/hers.

poyoloko · December 8, 2019, 3:12am

Young men never take relationship advice from this homosexual. Anatafuta wa kumchunisha sukuma. Wewe uliachwa na bibi ukageuka shoga. Sio kila bibi ni malaya kama bibi yako serre

imei2012 · December 8, 2019, 3:54am

This is solid advice, acha wenye maskio waskie. My biggest beef with marriage today is that the society expects men to trade the best years of their life ( between 28 and 48 when they have a combination of money, youth and sexual potency ) in exchange for a woman’s diminishing and worst years of her life ( late 20s and beyond ). Kama huniamini go and propose to a pretty, voluptuous 20-year-old in 1st year student uone vile atakudharau ata kama uko na pesa kuliko Kirubi, why? She knows that she is at the peak of her life! Why would she exclusively reserve for you her one single shot of high-value feminine currency?? BTW most girls at this stage will rarely if ever think of anything as remotely as marriage. The need to get married only creeps up on them when it hits them that they won’t always be attractive and tantalizing. THIS SHOULD TELL U SOMETHING!

The same chic akifika 32 will now expect an unsuspecting man to give up the best years of his life in exchange of a used-up puthy, erratic fertility and saggy breasts. Bad, bad deal if you ask me. Why would you struggle to make all that cash just to burn it on the altar of a woman who wouldn’t give u a second glance when she was tight at her prime at 22? Wewe huoni unachezwa?

Wanaume muache hii neediness, work on your game, go to the gym and travel regularly kama unaweza. You will be surprised by how much the world has to offer out there.

ION: I have talked to many older men in their 50s and 60s and most of them keep wishing that they had figured out a way of having and raising kids without necessarily getting married.

You have said exactly my thoughts

imei2012 · December 8, 2019, 3:59am

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sani · December 8, 2019, 4:35am

@Mimi Huwa Namwaga Ndanii a woman and a few kids can finish your money or derail your path in life? then you are a poor man. Man must marry, and get children. Lakini kama vijana ni mbegu mbaya mother nature itawasukuma msioe, ndio io mbegu yenu iperish

LINANI · December 8, 2019, 4:50am

The thing that messed the African man is stupid crap called modernity, the white man came with the word called love, a word with no tangible meaning and never existed in our society, marriage was for procreation only, any kids born out of the marriage belonged to the community.
I think as black men we need a conversation with ourselves, this new order of life that was introduced to us about 100yrs ago doesn’t suit us at all. How did we survive all those years without the crappy new rules. I know women will say ohh oppression ohh we didn’t have freedom, look at what your freedom has done to you… out of 13 female cousins of mine, only 4 have children, two are married but still struggle to stay put in their marriage because they are still hunting for the love of their life. The oldest who is about 48yrs old called me a few weeks ago to tell me that she found Mr. right note that this is the 18th Mr right. I told her straight up that this nigga just wants to smash, you cannot be alcoholic, a smoker and a single mother and expect to land a bank manager.

Shiesty · December 8, 2019, 5:26am

wanaume wameamka

thesavage · December 8, 2019, 5:28am

Siku hizi kuoa has limited connection kujipatia watoto. Rate of illegitimacy is very high. Wazee wanachezwa. Vibaya. Cuckoldry. Na current conventions and culture encourages men to wife up singomathas mtu ajicuck mwenyewe. Eish. Enda tu uoe but watch out your daughter/son might actually be mine.

sani · December 8, 2019, 5:32am

will you be happy nikiishi na mtoto wako majengo ilhali unaishi karen? utafurahia ukijua uko na mtoto ulizaa na bibi yangu anakula shida kwangu na wewe unaendelea tu poa?

Tyler_Boy · December 8, 2019, 5:39am

He is not talking about money here. Marriage drains more than money my friend!

sani · December 8, 2019, 5:42am

Sir Charles Njonjo had the same ideas, until he found out later in life that he was wrong

Tyler_Boy · December 8, 2019, 5:46am

Exactly. My biggest beef na kuoa is that the society will expect u to take responsibility for problems that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Dem anashinda clubbing and riding the cock in her prime then turns around and expect u to marry her once the clock starts ticking. She will then transfer all this baggage that she has raked up over the years to your life. Worse, ni singo matha. All this just coz u want a bit of company in your 40s, 50s etc? Reallly??

If its a MUST u get married basi tafuta an 18-year-old virgin and mould her to your image. But even then, shit happens. Lakini u will have luck on your side not against you.

Tyler_Boy · December 8, 2019, 5:51am

Njonjo only bent to societal pressure, he shouldnt have caved in. Putting up with a woman’s nonsense for decades requires a certain level of insanity that most men are not equipped with.

vladmir_putin · December 8, 2019, 5:54am

Nailed it.

To younger men craving female “companionship.”

We get it. Part of you wants to believe in the fantasy. The fantasy that says, she’ll be accepting, giving, loyal, loving, and yes, sexual. Sexual to you and you alone.

You’re young, and naturally crave being close with a woman. How can you look at her mannerisms, her sexually arousing curves/feminine body, her sweet, high pitched voice and not want to believe the fantasy. How can you not want her?

Even if you haven’t been laid yet, the porn you’ve probably surfed on the net helps feed the fantasy…

Well, I’m well into my 30’s and can tell you right here and now…
Mother nature (your testosterone) is compelling you to see what she (Mother Nature) wants you to see, to feel what she wants you to feel. But her agenda isn’t for you to have a “loving, lasting relationship” my young Brother.

Mother Nature’s a BITCH, and her agenda is quite simple. She is creating this physical, psychological trap inside you for the sole purpose in achieving her relentless goal to get you to PROCREATE. To make babies and perpetuate the species.

However, all you’re sensing, all you’re feeling is the groaning desire for the sex, love, companionship and life-long pair-bonding YOU WANT TO BELIEVE THIS CREATURE CAN PROVIDE.

Mother nature, again, the BITCH that she is, is cold as they come. She doesn’t give a flying f**k about hypergamy, horrible divorce law, shitty economies and of course, women’s insidiously callous darker nature.

So how does a young man survive this inner-conflict?
There’s NO EASY, NO COMFORTING ANSWER. But, here’s a couple suggestions:

It’s ok to date women, to have fun with them. After all, it does indeed feel great to lay naked with a woman, smelling her scents, to feel her body against yours, fucking and getting a nice sloppy BJ on a hot February morning. Hell, even to just to hold hands and cuddle in front of a movie.

But make no mistake my young Brother. All of those sweet things listed above ARE FLEETING. THEY NEVER LAST. EVER. SHE WILL USE THESE TO HER ADVANTAGE OVER TIME, GUARAN-FERCKING-TEED.

Again, go ahead and date, get laid, but don’t fall into her (and Mother Nature’s) trap.

She will try and use her sexuality and affections to trap you into marriage. The first few months, you’ll be in pu**y heaven. You may even start thinking she’s “different.” This is where you need to watch your ass.

Always remember. Women are CREATURES OF SURVIVAL and will engage in shockingly callous behaviors to secure their survival agenda, even in our modern time when her survival agenda isn’t needed. It’s just hard wired in. She’ll always be looking for a “better deal” (50% of women in all relationships admit having a back up man they’re grooming, just in case).

As hard as it is to fathom, a woman, once she’s done with you, will gut you in divorce court, devastate you psychologically and walk away without a care in the fucking world. No remorse, no guilt, zero fucking shame. The seemingly sweetest of the sweetest women do this.

This isn’t malicious, it’s hard-wired in. Getting mad and hating women for their darker survivalist nature is like hating sharks or scorpions for theirs. Complete waste of energy. Just suck up the cold, hard truth and act accordingly.

Speaking of sharks, considering getting married is like considering diving into a lagoon full of sharks, wearing a wet-suit made out of flank steak. At the urging of the delusional herd and testosterone coursing through your body, you somehow hope you can enjoy a nice swim and not end up crawling onto shore with the 50% of other dipshits with arms and legs bitten clean off.

Hell, even if you don’t get bit (divorced), how fun is it perpetually treading water with eyes in the back of your fucking head, constantly dodging those insidiously snapping jaws (shit tests, demands and nagging)?

Women will scream until hell freezes over they want a “nice guy.”
It’s complete bullshit. Date women, but instead of the being a pushover, “nice guy.” Be the “lovable asshole.” That unattainable guy that plays his cards close to his chest. She’ll bitch, moan and cry to her friends how she can’t get you to “open up,” which really means she can’t get you under her control. While this does drive her nuts, however, it also makes her sexually engaged. She’ll keep right on sexing you up to try and suck you into her velvet trap.

Use this to your advantage, but remember to respect Mother Nature for the cold, calculating BITCH she is. Don’t get sucked in. Don’t fall in love with a fantasy that will never come true.

Have friends, have hobbies, enjoy women for who and what they are. Have a “plan” for you and own it. Everyone loves a “man with a plan.” Just don’t get sucked into the marriage trap.

Nailed it, Straight on the head, i envy your life man well articulated. Marriage is a scam purposed to enslave man.

thesavage · December 8, 2019, 5:56am

Is a challenge to your point nature inaondoa mbegu mbaya wale hawaoi. The worst and most efficient inseminators ni boys tu hapo mtaa. They are single like nonsense. Hawaoi. But watoto wako na jeshi nzima. Watu ambao wanalea watoto hawajui walitoka wapi ni wajinga. Lea tu mtoto nature doesnt care if I am happy or sad. Nature will have won the day. Sijaoa huyo mtu, na bado amezaa mtoto tumbili analea huko.