Uneasy relationship with my old man

[WuTang]

@bishopheahmund

Rubeni listen and listen good from my experience;
My mum and dad met while in high school in eldoret. He was kale she was luhya. Mum concieved me and she had to drop out in form 3. She travelled to western and had me. From tales am told my aunt took me as a toddler to his place and they weren’t exactly the welcoming type. I was raised by maternal grandmother and uncles. Mom passed on in 2002 when I had joined high school. She never really talked about him much and my enquries about him would not sit well with ma. I completed high school in 05 joined college and got my first job in 07. This all was courtesy of another family that had taken me in and grandma. In 2007 I finally met the guy in downtown nai. I explained to him that I wasn’t interested in what transpired between him and ma. I was giving him a clean slate on which he could establish a relationship with me. He asked me why I didn’t go to university I told him I missed the jab requirement by a point I couldn’t afford direct entry and had to get a job to ease pressure on those who had seen me this far. The nigga in a typical kale fashion bragged how he is friends with moi chancellor prof mibei at the time and he would get me in no time, remember it’s during the heated 2007 elections campaign. He told me he was married and with three kids and was looking forward to me meeting them and that my grandma her ma had left me some land in soi. After the election the cat and mouse games began. Appointments we’re not honored and phone calls ignored , remember am a young man really in search of identity and sense of belonging. Finally one morning in 08 I composed a long ass sms telling him off and explained to him where I had come from was more tough than where I was going he might as well jump off a cliff. I got a better opportunity that year and soon might head to Europe or somewhere else. I got two kids and as much as I don’t stand their mom I love them to the end of the Earth and back. Am in their lives and want to improve their position by exploiting other better opportunities so they can live better than I did. I will never go back to that purportedly father. I moved on accepted my fate and live with it. So mtu asiku guilt trip into something you just can’t stand. By all means help him but draw the line in sand !

Pole, at least I can say I had the privilege of growing up with both parents. And my dad was there for all of us.

[bishopheahmund]

@WuTang

What you are saying doesn’t make sense.

Meant if he wasn’t there then why should he be there for him now ? Kama ni pesa anataka aseme bill kumpeleka kwenye unnecessary emotional rollercoaster na guilt trip!

[WuTang]

@bishopheahmund

Meant if he wasn’t there then why should he be there for him now ? Kama ni pesa anataka aseme bill kumpeleka kwenye unnecessary emotional rollercoaster na guilt trip!

I understand where you are coming from.

[system]

Samehea yeye atleast he was responsible enough to pay the school.fees.

Lakini.mimi.kuna uncle aliniwacha mataani nikiwa high school.Nishamwambia sina fare ya kwenda home msee akaniambia ataenda kwambia dad aniletee.
Dad alinikujia kama amekasirika sana…

Siku hizi jamaaa huwa ananililia shida zake namwangalia tu then naenda zangu.

[bishopheahmund]

@WuTang

Pole, at least I can say I had the privilege of growing up with both parents. And my dad was there for all of us.

Wacha nikushow man the many broken men you see around si kupenda kwao it’s very difficult for a mother to raise a boy afadhali family ikivunjika let the man raise boys and the mum girls and not vice versa! Kuna some specific lessons that only your dad/mum can teach or instil in you !

[system]

@bishopheahmund

Rubeni listen and listen good from my experience;
My mum and dad met while in high school in eldoret. He was kale she was luhya. Mum concieved me and she had to drop out in form 3. She travelled to western and had me. From tales am told my aunt took me as a toddler to his place and they weren’t exactly the welcoming type. I was raised by maternal grandmother and uncles. Mom passed on in 2002 when I had joined high school. She never really talked about him much and my enquries about him would not sit well with ma. I completed high school in 05 joined college and got my first job in 07. This all was courtesy of another family that had taken me in and grandma. In 2007 I finally met the guy in downtown nai. I explained to him that I wasn’t interested in what transpired between him and ma. I was giving him a clean slate on which he could establish a relationship with me. He asked me why I didn’t go to university I told him I missed the jab requirement by a point I couldn’t afford direct entry and had to get a job to ease pressure on those who had seen me this far. The nigga in a typical kale fashion bragged how he is friends with moi chancellor prof mibei at the time and he would get me in no time, remember it’s during the heated 2007 elections campaign. He told me he was married and with three kids and was looking forward to me meeting them and that my grandma her ma had left me some land in soi. After the election the cat and mouse games began. Appointments we’re not honored and phone calls ignored , remember am a young man really in search of identity and sense of belonging. Finally one morning in 08 I composed a long ass sms telling him off and explained to him where I had come from was more tough than where I was going he might as well jump off a cliff. I got a better opportunity that year and soon might head to Europe or somewhere else. I got two kids and as much as I don’t stand their mom I love them to the end of the Earth and back. Am in their lives and want to improve their position by exploiting other better opportunities so they can live better than I did. I will never go back to that purportedly father. I moved on accepted my fate and live with it. So mtu asiku guilt trip into something you just can’t stand. By all means help him but draw the line in sand !

Powerful read!! May God continue being the Father figure you need and fulfill all the desires of your heart.

[gashwin]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E_bL8P0hzSA

[MarkMarco]

Life is hard on this godless rock we inhabit, While some begin the the race of life at 10 points out of 100, others begin at -100 points yet are judged equally on the wealth spectrum:confused:
Short story …
[SPOILER="Extreemly rude story about ""pARENTS "]Sometimes a child I made out of unwillingly pouring cum in the wrong crack… several months later a bastard is born, and since is unwanted by one or both parties since birth, its a battle against the world. This happens everyday… In the future the bastard is potent and remorse and regret hit the now old life giver(s) and sought to know them but its usually cosmetic.[/SPOILER]

@Rubeni Best scenario forgive or kill the fucker when he is out drinking. Either way he should mean as much as fees paid + interest on the same after that he can bite. I see in china OLD PARENTS being murdered everyday, after overdrawing their lifes contribution plus interest on their kids. :rolleyes:

[Dasani]

Today you can say you are good financially or in health…tomorrow who knows?.unaweza ingia accident ujipate miguu zimeenda and you become Dependant for the rest of you life… Sort your mzee out…
Quickest way to get rich and scale life ladder is by serving parents well

[Rubeni]

@Dasani

Today you can say you are good financially or in health…tomorrow who knows?.unaweza ingia accident ujipate miguu zimeenda and you become Dependant for the rest of you life… Sort your mzee out…
Quickest way to get rich and scale life ladder is by serving parents well

I really don’t get your analogy. Have I said I am not helping? What has getting an accident got to do with the fact that I am bitter I was neglected? I am the victim here

[gashwin]

@Rubeni

I am the victim here

You are on your feet now. drop this tag.

[Dasani]

@Rubeni

I really don’t get your analogy. Have I said I am not helping? What has getting an accident got to do with the fact that I am bitter I was neglected? I am the victim here

You only have one father…sort him well without playing some shitty victim card or leave him(hawezi kufa God is there for him)

[Ole_masai]

Victim! You were sired, had a home, school fees paid and you are playing the victim card! Next you will ask for therapy to relief you abandonment.
Again, doing well is relative. You may think you are doing well now, only for life to change in a manner you never expected, and require the assistance of those you are looking down upon.

[pertusis]

@gashwin

You are on your feet now. drop this tag.

kuishi kwingi kuona mengi,mzee amefikisha ujumbe

[Teddy_time]

He may not have been there much but without him paying your fees you wouldnt be where you are today. Msaidie to atleast leave a decent life in his old age. At the end of the day he is a jamaa like us. Most men would just leave and not even think of fees

[daudiyulemsee]

sort mzae polepole and try to communicate atafungua roho polepole kaka maybe down there he regrets a lot kaka

[Rubeni]

@bishopheahmund

Rubeni listen and listen good from my experience;
My mum and dad met while in high school in eldoret. He was kale she was luhya. Mum concieved me and she had to drop out in form 3. She travelled to western and had me. From tales am told my aunt took me as a toddler to his place and they weren’t exactly the welcoming type. I was raised by maternal grandmother and uncles. Mom passed on in 2002 when I had joined high school. She never really talked about him much and my enquries about him would not sit well with ma. I completed high school in 05 joined college and got my first job in 07. This all was courtesy of another family that had taken me in and grandma. In 2007 I finally met the guy in downtown nai. I explained to him that I wasn’t interested in what transpired between him and ma. I was giving him a clean slate on which he could establish a relationship with me. He asked me why I didn’t go to university I told him I missed the jab requirement by a point I couldn’t afford direct entry and had to get a job to ease pressure on those who had seen me this far. The nigga in a typical kale fashion bragged how he is friends with moi chancellor prof mibei at the time and he would get me in no time, remember it’s during the heated 2007 elections campaign. He told me he was married and with three kids and was looking forward to me meeting them and that my grandma her ma had left me some land in soi. After the election the cat and mouse games began. Appointments we’re not honored and phone calls ignored , remember am a young man really in search of identity and sense of belonging. Finally one morning in 08 I composed a long ass sms telling him off and explained to him where I had come from was more tough than where I was going he might as well jump off a cliff. I got a better opportunity that year and soon might head to Europe or somewhere else. I got two kids and as much as I don’t stand their mom I love them to the end of the Earth and back. Am in their lives and want to improve their position by exploiting other better opportunities so they can live better than I did. I will never go back to that purportedly father. I moved on accepted my fate and live with it. So mtu asiku guilt trip into something you just can’t stand. By all means help him but draw the line in sand !

Thanks man. Most of the comments are about mzazi ni mzazi bla bla. If you’ve not felt the pain you can’t relate. Eating boiled mbogas alone for supper and you have a dad working in a big company in Nairobi.

[sitaki]

trying to start or forge a father/son relationship at this advanced age can be hectic, especially if you dont live in the same homestead - so don’t try too much, lakini akitaka usaidizi saidia vile unaweza.

[LINANI]

@Rubeni

Thanks man. Most of the comments are about mzazi ni mzazi bla bla. If you’ve not felt the pain you can’t relate. Eating boiled mbogas alone for supper and you have a dad working in a big company in Nairobi.

WTF, move on already, make a better life for your kids…with due respect to your mother, I think she succeeded in poisoning your relationship with your Father…
Man up Nigga talk to your Dad, you will be surprised to get a truer version of what happened…

[thesavage]

@LINANI

WTF, move on already, make a better life for your kids…with due respect to your mother, I think she succeeded in poisoning your relationship with your Father…
Man up Nigga talk to your Dad, you will be surprised to get a truer version of what happened…

@Rubeni listen to this guy he knows what he is talking about.