Utaoa lini / utapata mtoto lini? kwani is it amust

[system]

@ndume

When you have children, your priority shifts to seeing them grow up. Everything you do, you do with them in mind. Many stop risky sexual behaviour, they might cheat but they do it safely. If you have a child at 35 years, believe me, your worry is whether you will see him or her become an adult. It is better to have them early so that by the time you retire, you are free from basic parental responsibilities and can lead your life comfortably.

I talk to people who married late and most them wonder what they had been waiting for. In most cases, people wait thinking they will get better jobs or their financial status will have improved, but as they hit 40, they realise that nothing has really improved but still they want to get married and have children.

Consequently, it is better to regret why you married early than why you did not

If the baby doesn’t come, you have no option but to wait! Akikuja at 45…you welcome the bundle with zero regrets!

[montecarlo]

@ndume

When you have children, your priority shifts to seeing them grow up. Everything you do, you do with them in mind. Many stop risky sexual behaviour, they might cheat but they do it safely. If you have a child at 35 years, believe me, your worry is whether you will see him or her become an adult. It is better to have them early so that by the time you retire, you are free from basic parental responsibilities and can lead your life comfortably.

I talk to people who married late and most them wonder what they had been waiting for. In most cases, people wait thinking they will get better jobs or their financial status will have improved, but as they hit 40, they realise that nothing has really improved but still they want to get married and have children.

Consequently, it is better to regret why you married early than why you did not

Not necessarily true…you may marry at 28 and pass on at 35…someone may marry at 35 and pass on at 70…you don’t marry early because of retirement kwani unaoa juu ya kazi or your desire to have had a family?

[ndume]

@montecarlo

Not necessarily true…you may marry at 28 and pass on at 35…someone may marry at 35 and pass on at 70…you don’t marry early because of retirement kwani unaoa juu ya kazi or your desire to have had a family?

The natural life expectancy was in my mind when i wrote this. Retirement from what you mostly do, not necessarily white collar jobs. In any case, business people marry very early

[emali]

very true at @ndume most people in the west get children early and in quick succession so by the time they are in their forties, relatively young, they are done with business basic parental responsibilities ,of course in the movies its different they all wait till have good jobs houses etc, hapa in africa not long ago we generally had the same although our women kept giving birth to their forties, now the young middle class would rather wait till they are a bit older

[montecarlo]

@ndume

The natural life expectancy was in my mind when i wrote this. Retirement from what you mostly do, not necessarily white collar jobs. In any case, business people marry very early

Marry because your psychologically ready not when you have a few coins in your wallet. The former will drive you to be a proper father and husband whilst the later just a provider.

[Ice_Cube]

it all boils down to preferences

[trish]

For a woman its different. Her biological clock ticks much faster. So if she in any way is willing to settle down and have kids in future, then waiting till 40 is plain stupid. Nowadays menopause hits very early. I know one who is 42 and experiencing menopause just because she “waited for the perfect time”.

Nani alisema lazima uwe na mapesa mingi to settle down? It takes two to settle. Mtasaidiana kama you both into it

And i like your point…hio story ya tujamaa twa mtaa kuzalisha tu watu ati to just “leave a legacy” ni upussss. Afadhali you die at 56 na hauna watoi you neglected huko nje wanapata mashida because you just wanted to leave your sperms “ukumbukwe”.

[anon18059438]

Personally i respect a married hustler more who is living in kibra than a boy who doesn’t want to move out of his mother’s nest. Taka taka

[mayekeke]

It must be sad to be 40 with no wife and kids, there are some things money can’t replace,no money in the world can replace the feeling I get when my kids run into my arms each time I enter the house at the end of the day.