Washika dau nisaidieni kwa mawaidha!

[system]

entitled hoe

[cleo]

As a bachelor, let me sit aside and keep advice for future marital issues

[gashwin]

@Ice_Cube can you be able to retrieve hekaya yangu ya kimani, a cattle vaccination excercise and vodacom tanzania network?

[kalel]

@Mutesa II

You are right,when we started she was an angel.We do go to church but am afraid to involve the pastor because i know this issue will become the subject of gossip for the next few weeks.We cant involve parents because she says my parents tend to side with me.Once i paid for very expensive counseling sessions but she said that the counselor was apparently siding with me because i was the one paying for the sessions.

My friend,life is too short for such You have to be a good parent but you don’t have to be a husband.

[system]

@Mutesa II

You are right,when we started she was an angel.We do go to church but am afraid to involve the pastor because i know this issue will become the subject of gossip for the next few weeks.We cant involve parents because she says my parents tend to side with me.Once i paid for very expensive counseling sessions but she said that the counselor was apparently siding with me because i was the one paying for the sessions.

She could be depressed? Is she employed, does she have her own money? She could be feeling trapped not having the means and depending on you for everything. Do you make her feel valued or do you harass her with your status as the breadwinner? Find out what role you played in making her act like this. Do you make her feel like a sex object? Are you romantic or do you jump onto her like a bicycle? What did you buy her for Valentine’s Day? You need to commit yourself to helping her as your sister first, the rest later. I’m sure if asked, she could paint a very different picture of you. There’s always two sides in a story. If you married an angel, then obviously you played a role in making her who she is today. No woman wakes up one day and starts hating the father of her kids, never.

[system]

@Ice_Cube

umeniibia mabibi wawili huku tayari. Ni we we ndio hunimaliza kisiasa

:D:D:D:D:D

[Ice_Cube]

@gashwin

@Ice_Cube can you be able to retrieve hekaya yangu ya kimani, a cattle vaccination excercise and vodacom tanzania network?

Lemme have a look

[denis_young]

@Purple

She could be depressed? Is she employed, does she have her own money? She could be feeling trapped not having the means and depending on you for everything. Do you make her feel valued or do you harass her with your status as the breadwinner? Find out what role you played in making her act like this. Do you make her feel like a sex object? Are you romantic or do you jump onto her like a bicycle? What did you buy her for Valentine’s Day? You need to commit yourself to helping her as your sister first, the rest later. I’m sure if asked, she could paint a very different picture of you. There’s always two sides in a story. If you married an angel, then obviously you played a role in making her who she is today. No woman wakes up one day and starts hating the father of her kids, never.

Wtf?? :D:D What he bought for her on valentines day? Some people are inherently weak mentally like a very close relative of mine. She has suffered three mental breakdowns over nothing. And when I say nothing I do mean nothing. Frankly, having someone like that who is a ticking time bomb should be avoided at all costs. Mapenzi kando. You ulcerd might erupt like small volcanoes even before you are 30.

[Mutesa_II]

@Purple

She could be depressed? Is she employed, does she have her own money? She could be feeling trapped not having the means and depending on you for everything. Do you make her feel valued or do you harass her with your status as the breadwinner? Find out what role you played in making her act like this. Do you make her feel like a sex object? Are you romantic or do you jump onto her like a bicycle? What did you buy her for Valentine’s Day? You need to commit yourself to helping her as your sister first, the rest later. I’m sure if asked, she could paint a very different picture of you. There’s always two sides in a story. If you married an angel, then obviously you played a role in making her who she is today. No woman wakes up one day and starts hating the father of her kids, never.

All the above are very plausible reasons on why she could be acting as she is, i wont discount that.True am not an angel and am open to audit and scrutiny but i have never seen her remorseful even for things she knows she has helped to exacerbate.This is a woman i loved despite the ugly side of her,when we were boyfriend/girlfriend she left me for her brother’s friend because i was jobless then and my finances were sub zero,i forgave her and accepted her back.She terminated a pregnancy despite my pleadings and begging but despite all these she would want me to shoulder all the blame even for her mistakes, if this in not emotional terrorism then i dont know what is.

[Ice_Cube]

@gashwin I am not getting any positive results. Ilikua huku ama klist? Imenishinda

[ChifuMbitika]

You provide everything to a woman and she treats you like this! Jeeso. Kick her out like hell.

[Old_Monk]

Lazima alikucheki ukilust over your brothers wife so any mention of her or her brood anagadhabika kabisa ati her daughter is better than yours and hers.

[gashwin]

@Ice_Cube

@gashwin I am not getting any positive results. Ilikua huku ama klist? Imenishinda

nafikiri ni huku but i am not 100 p c sure. it could have been the last days of klist.

[system]

@old monk

Lazima alikucheki ukilust over your brothers wife so any mention of her or her brood anagadhabika kabisa ati her daughter is better than yours and hers.

He inflicted a mortal wound to her soul. Hapa ni intensive counseling na forgiveness itasaidia. A total reset. And what sort of a pastor would go around gossiping? Badilisha kanisa. There’s still hope!

[Okwonkwo]

@Mutesa II

Good people am in a sort of a dilemma and i have come to wits end on what step to take next.Early December 2017 i came home in the evening and gave a pep talk to my daughter who is in primary school on the virtues of hard work,i explained to her that i had met her cousin who is the daughter to my younger brother and she had done exemplary well in her end year exams as i extolled on the virtues of diligence my wife blew her top and told me to stop comparing our girl with other kids this escalated into a shouting match and i let her know in no uncertain terms that she is green with envy about the family of my younger brother(she actually doesn’t talk to my brothers wife).
We had our dinner and off i went to bed early.I waited for her to come to bed but she didn’t,i went to the living room and i found her sleeping on the couch(we have a 3 bedroom apartment).I did not talk to her and thought that that was her way of cooling off. A week later i asked her to come to bed and she told me she is not interested and that i can go ahead and get a woman of my liking and bring her to our bed.Well i said to myself maybe she needs some time out so i let her be.Two weeks,three weeks,one month,two months finally it has been three months since she moved out of our matrimonial bed.We have not been intimate for that long and this looks like it will not end soon.I am the family’s sole provider and i go flat out to make my family as comfortable as possible,am a good provider and i give my family the best i can.Some five years ago she packed her things and went back to her parents place and even during that time i continued to provide for them as a job she had secured could not provide them the lifestyle they were used to while they were at my place.After a few months she came back and no sooner had she settled than these nasty arguments began.
One thing i know for sure is that she hates my family with a passion(siblings and parents)She wants me to cut links with them so that we have a happy life.My big question is should i cut ties with my family so that i can have peace with her?Is it normal for a wife to deny the husband his conjugal rights because of such a mundane thing as an argument?Is this emotional blackmail and terrorism enough grounds for me to ask for a separation?

Show her you have a second wife utaona vile hiyo coomer italetwa kwa kitanda na ipanuliwe bila wewe kutaka.

[Jolly]

@Mutesa II

All the above are very plausible reasons on why she could be acting as she is, i wont discount that.True am not an angel and am open to audit and scrutiny but i have never seen her remorseful even for things she has knows she has helped to exacerbate.This is a woman i loved despite the ugly side of her,when we were boyfriend/girlfriend she left me for her brother’s friend because i was jobless then and my finances were sub zero,i forgave her and accepted her back.She terminated a pregnancy despite my pleadings and begging but despite all these she would want me to shoulder all the blame even for her mistakes, if this in not emotional terrorism then i dont know what is.

When you were dating her, you saw the red flags and chose to ignore. Mwiba wa kujidunga hauna pole.

[SnazzyKenyan]

@Ka-Buda

Relationship = Trust +Respect

She has no respect for you and your family.
She doesn’t love you anymore but she won’t leave because you provide for her.
There’s nothing left to salvage here.
End this relationship.

Tru.very tru.

@native son

a whole novel juu ya kunyimwa kuma!?wonders will never cease

Umeoa kweli?

[Mutesa_II]

@Okwonkwo

Show her you have a second wife utaona vile hiyo coomer italetwa kwa kitanda na ipanuliwe bila wewe kutaka.

Maybe she is waiting for me to act,i once told her i will get another woman and she dared me to go right ahead and if i so felt bring her to the house.Huyu ni kichwa ngumu

[LeoK]

@Purple

No, a marriage shouldn’t be so easily broken. There’s kids involved and much more to salvage. Mutesa, do you guys go to church? If so, involve your pastor. Go for counseling but do not cheat on her or think of divorce. Find out why she’s angry with life. Is she having an extra marital affair? What happened along the way, over the years?? I’m sure when you married her she wasn’t acting this way.

So he should remain in a loveless Union because of the kids? Are you even married? That union is beyond salvage. He can still bring up the kid(s) without being married to the mother. A woman asking you to sever ties with your family is the devil.

[gashwin]

@Jolly

When you were dating her, you saw the red flags and chose to ignore. Mwiba wa kujidunga hauna pole.

he made mistakes but this is not the time for blames…