To be Honest its always a shock even when you are married in your thirties and with other kids!
Your life is Never the same again which is the main cause of Shock,Fear and all other uncertainties including the Fact that with this āempowered womenā that Kid might actually NOT be yours!
And you have to deal with all these like a man whilst being seen to be 100% supportive of your now future child`s mother!
Congratulations Bro! This is what Being a Man is all about!
You are now a Man!.. (DFHKMNKumwaga Ndani!)ā¦
lol ok, this is a very loaded question and my answer may not be very popular but here goes ā¦ Its gonna be long though, so brace yourself lol
Males always have the choice of being able to āresetā and start their lives regardless of whatever happens. No matter how many kids a man has, he can start afresh, as it were, and just carry on as if nothing happened. Thats one of the things thats lost on very many females. Men get to walk away with their dignity, āmoralityā and whatever else, still intact, no matter what happens in their lives.
A good example is our own in-house @Ka-Buda . He has like 30 kids outchea and no one says anything other than a joke in here or there which isnāt followed up with a personal attack (other than from yours truly takes a bow). Our female counterparts (on this forum only, I aināt even started counting real life instances) get dragged at least once every 3 - 4 days for being single moms even if its out of their control ā¦ widowed, cheated on, physically abused, whatever the reason.
With all this in mind, I can honestly say that one of the things I put off is having babies because I know that I can be impulsive with literally everything else in my life except that. Iām pacing myself. You have to pick your battles in life, I know this is one which I canāt win without some kind of strategy and as such, Iām keeping it in my ā¦ ovaries :)D) till I feel ready.
Iām not saying that Iām immune, Iām just saying that bar an unforeseen occurrence like immaculate conception or (heaven forbid) a rape, I will not be having any babies I havenāt planned to have. fingers crossedknock on wood etc
Okay lady. Thereās that mantra ācommunication is vital in a relationshipā. Maybe kids bring some schism between partners because there were no agreements, plansā¦communication. Hubbies and their wifeys need to talk long before marriage. As for boyfies and their baes, maybe they should question their direction in life together, to determine whether they are in a longterm commitment or some heat of the moment romping. How easy it is to ignore responsibility and the āka-voiceā that we hate to listen to!
Thats true. I guess most people assume kids are an unavoidable eventuality while in reality, theyāre a choice. I always say that it would be much much easier for like 70% of my peers (and everyone else I guess) if they didnāt feel that they had to have kids. If only societal pressures didnāt drive most of the life decisions people make so lightly
Anasema she and her future hubby will plan carefully before mixing gonads to create a baby. Discussing these matters is paramount because of the responsibility that comes with parenthood.
I was overjoyed. Had stayed for 3yrs after marriage, and our relationship was getting strained. Fortunately, walikuja twins, though one passed on 8 months later. But God compensated an year later. Am a proud mother of 3.
and no one says anything other than a joke in here or there which isnāt followed up with a personal attack (other than from yours truly takes a bow). Our female counterparts (on this forum only, I aināt even started counting real life instances) get dragged at least once every 3 - 4 days for being single moms even if its out of their control ā¦ widowed, cheated on, physically abused, whatever the reason.