mikel
December 7, 2020, 6:55pm
22
Toroka and never look back
Matho
December 7, 2020, 7:01pm
23
Mimi Kama Mimi Bibi anakaa nyumbani upusi ya fombe is a big No Lea watoto period
Did you read the OP? This is not his wife…so he has a chance to drop ‘it like it is hot’.
Bachelor:
The kiamsha-macho thread here titled “I wish I knew” was indeed an eye-opener. Niliichambua like my life depended on it because frankly, it did. Ever since, nimekua rada mbaya sana na hawa mayengs. I’m seeing red flags that previously took a curve over my head. Of particular note is the wisdom one elder dished about the importance of knowing the family background and upbringing of any woman you intend to donate your last name to. He opined that women from broken homes are highly likely to come with that toxicity to your home. How right he was.
It all started a few weeks ago when the woman and I accidentally bumped into her father in some drinking joint. They live in the same hood so this coincidence wasn’t all that surprising. I had met the guy before but we didn’t talk. On this fateful day, nilikosa njia ya kuingia Karura on his dad because it was a social setting and we had no choice but to join him at his table. A few drinks down the line and we were all having the time of our lives bonding. He even endorsed my candidature for his daughter’s soulmate. But then it started getting weird as her dad irrigated his throat more. He became reckless in his talk. He would talk about his visits to other countries and dwell on how beautiful the women in said countries were. I didn’t think too much into it at the time because I was well aware that he and the woman’s mom were separated and that part of the reason was because of his philandering ways. They are somehow still “together” but live in separate houses literally a stone-throw away from each other. I can’t recall exactly what triggered it but the woman suddenly had an outburst, accusing her dad of all manner of things from her childhood. Needless to say, this was very painful for me to watch and hear. The traditional me had never experienced such a level of disrespect from someone towards their father. But it was quite interesting because it reminded me of similar outbursts from her towards me that had started not too long ago. Outbursts I previously blamed on alcohol but all the same I was worried about. Her dad, obviously because he had been in this situation many times, tactfully and gracefully brought the situation under control and we were soon back to drinking and making merry. But armed with the wisdom from Elders here, my antennas switched to red alert.
Fast forward a few days later, she had yet another outburst directed at me, a situation I walked away from and swore never to allow again. I decided to cut her off. But in her typical you-are-not-leaving-me fashion, she showed up at my house unannounced the next day. I saw it coming as she had done this many times before. I had pondered what options I had for dealing with it decisively when she came and I concluded that denying her entry would be a bit on the beta side. So I decided that when she showed up, I’d gracefully host her and initiate “the talk” with her with as much civility as I could muster. She immediately sensed some level of indifference from me as soon as she walked in (I’m very poor at pretending) and immediately called her mother. She started sobbing about how stressed she was and how the stress had triggered her ulcers. She was obviously fishing for sympathy from me because she ensured I could hear the conversation. What she did not expect is that her mother would go into yap mode and say things I was not supposed to hear. See, her mom has always been super nice to me. She even referred to me as “my son” multiple times, an honor I was made to understand had never been bestowed on anyone else.
I was trying to block the conversation and mind my own business even though I could hear her mom mention my name a few times. Until this woman said something that awoke my antennas. “Mom, I’m the problem,” she said. Because I’d heard my name a few times, it only made sense to me that her mom was trying to insinuate that somehow, I was the source of her problems. The woman on the other hand was trying to sound like she was defending me against the insinuation. So when I decided to pay closer attention to the convo, nilipigwa na bumbwazi from what I heard. Her mom insisted that she was not the problem and that she needed to move on from me. To which this woman responded something to the effect that she “survives on love” and can’t live without it. Waah! Her mom went into this rant about how the fact that her dad likes me suggests that he might see himself in me. The mother kept insisting on how she had told her multiple times to leave me but she never listened. It immediately dawned on me that this woman had been bad-mouthing me to her mom, all the while lying to me how much the same mother really liked me. That is when it all came together. This is an estrogen-centric family. A tight-knit cabal of six women. The few men from this family have all been alieneted. They kicked out their father. Their brother died a few years ago after he ran away from home and went to live on the streets in downtown Nairobi. One of the girls in the family has a daughter and son. Their father took the son and went to live with him, leaving the daughter with her mom. He must have seen something for him to do that.
Wadau, am I being too creative in my analysis of this situation ama ni ukweli iko shida hapa?
Wewe hii Sunday kua wa kwanza kanisa…Shukuru Mungu vile amekuangushia Red Flag moja ya nguvu yaani even the blind can’t miss it…my friend, chapa left…then a right…watch your back and then disappear into Boni forest. Meza sim card kama njugu na tafuta maisha ingine. Hii path ukichukua utakufa. Hiyo hao yote ni ya broken people who need mental assistance and you ain’t no professional. Yaani unaona mtu afadhali aishi kwa streets akufie huko kuliko kuishi na hao madame na bado wauliza maswali ???
uzito
December 7, 2020, 7:53pm
26
Dump the kunguru. But as a commandment, keep distance from all inlaws in future. You should be a stranger to them…the only problem is you are getting too used to ur inlaws soon you will soon see your mother or father in law in a towel. No drinking or hanging out with ur parents in law. You should be very rare to them and only appear for 2 hours once or twice a year carrying shopping then vanish. All families have issues so keep off all ur future inlaws affairs to avoid being treated like a joker. Dump her for now, it will never work and she will run to mummy for all future issues.
Subaru
December 7, 2020, 8:15pm
27
Boss, your girl’s or wife’s family never really likes you. You were just thrust in their midst because their daughter’s loins are on fire and she needs a constant d*ck. Even in your next relationship get that in your head. Never live with the illusion that they like you. the plastic platitudes and smiles are the fakest things you will ever encounter. Your downfall is celebrated more than your success by them. Kaa chonjo
This should be bookmarked.
Kodiaga
December 7, 2020, 8:50pm
28
That msut be a broken family.
Hydra
December 7, 2020, 9:19pm
29
Jitoe kwa upooole, otherwise she will inject the same brokenness into your family. Broken people produce other broken people. Or you will spend all your time fire fighting and trying to grow her up. Don’t make her problems yours, unless you carry the evil messiah syndrome, which is bound to drown you in sorrow.
By giving her more air time you will be allowing domination by the manipulative feminist. If you agree to getting screwed big time then more cotton to your ears & lube into would be advisable, iff not then run to the nearest hills like there is a gold rush
Sturboy
December 8, 2020, 4:12am
32
Don’t bother about the hate…most people are haters due to what they were told about you…some can hate you before you even meet
Kuna kunguru moja tu nishaifuga back in the days,kama ningemuoa kuna vile my mother in law tungekua na ka xhamster seshen. ;);)
gosh
December 8, 2020, 5:29am
34
Next time andika kitu ndogo tunaeza soma haraka banae. Mimi nimeachia katikati
i thought i was the only one who found that weird
Chimoni
December 8, 2020, 6:58am
36
8.4.4. Is a bitch ama namna gani my friend…
Msee ingia karura… I will sign. Place it on my table tomorrow morning before office hours. Nitasign
While dropping it, utapata registration forms za MGTOW, huku raha tu, just append your signature I will fill the details, and recommend you to the board of registration
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Kohkali
December 8, 2020, 10:25am
39
Mine is very simple when it comes to looking for a partner.If it’s a red flag,it’s a red flag,it won’t change colour anytime soon.
Bokilo
December 8, 2020, 1:40pm
40
Ubaya wa kijiji ni kitu moja saa zingine. Mtu hukuuliza advice na ukishampea hadi ukafanya deep analysis ya situation na ukapoint out 1000 reasons to not stay, bado utashtuka hapa after some months hakujitoa.
Anyway, Kijana all the advices umepatiwa hapo juu are 100% right,piga mswaki,osha macho,vaa track na funga kamba,kisha bolt to Karura or Boni we will be waiting for you,with open arms. If you don’t now, you will pay dearly
