Why marry if one will cheat?

[system]

@sani

Mbona unakula kama bado badaye utasikia njaa? Mbona unalipa ushuru kama bado itaibiwa? Mbona wewe ukicheat huwa unarudi nyumbani kwa mkeo?

@Mgaisingano

Well then why wasting your time in school if you just gonna die?

Looks like brilliant replies until you realize what you’re referring to isn’t what the OP is talking about.

The OP is not talking about or meaning ‘why would someone do something yet it will end’

He/she is meaning why keep something yet it has no essence; it’s not working. (Why keep something which is not working yet the thing is preventing you from looking for an alternative). Why stay in a loveless union which forces you to cheat? Or why even enter one in the first place? That’s what he/she means.

[system]

And of course there are reasons why someone would opt to stay in such a union assuming it’s a case of a healthy marriage which later turned loveless (instead of marrying another person or divorcing and having other partners)

In some cases someone would opt for a loveless marriage and ‘eat outside’ because they don’t want to go through the hassle, embarrassment of a divorce. In other cases, it’s because of the kids etc.

But most of the time people ‘eat outside’ because of other various reasons ranging from just stuff like it’s available and not because they’re in a loveless marriage

[system]

@uzito

Marriage has more to it than sex. You may not plan on cheating but you can get married then your wifes sex drive dips and she is no longer interested in sex or your marriage can have other issues going on like she loses a close relative and she does not feel like having sex with you for 2 years due to depression. Women are also wired to use sex to secure a husband and once that is done they see no need for regular sex unless their bodies tell them they need a child. Never judge people who cheat and never try to advise them. You do not know what theybare going through and that cheating may be the only thing keeping them sane. We need to embrace open marriages so that people are more open to each other that you can love someone but it does not mean that they meet your sexual needs. Even you yourself you will not meet all your wifes needs and how she reacts to that is upto her not you.

Any open marriage or such a thing needs to be discussed earlier.

If you can not meet someone’s needs like you’ve said for a wife traditionally people were expected to live with it. But in the modern world people date before marrying. So if a woman finds a man can not meet her needs she should either look for another guy immediately or if she is considering an open marriage she should say it upfront before anything official is made.

[Kibokoyao]

@uzito

Marriage has more to it than sex. You may not plan on cheating but you can get married then your wifes sex drive dips and she is no longer interested in sex or your marriage can have other issues going on like she loses a close relative and she does not feel like having sex with you for 2 years due to depression. Women are also wired to use sex to secure a husband and once that is done they see no need for regular sex unless their bodies tell them they need a child. Never judge people who cheat and never try to advise them. You do not know what theybare going through and that cheating may be the only thing keeping them sane. We need to embrace open marriages so that people are more open to each other that you can love someone but it does not mean that they meet your sexual needs. Even you yourself you will not meet all your wifes needs and how she reacts to that is upto her not you.

I agree there with you on open marriage.

[Mr.Kygo]

@maynah

Chances are yo’ll talkers eat kando, or pia the wife will be eaten severally outside. What is the point of keeping each other at home when you know attraction outside is imminent?

marry fr the same reason you keep a cow yet you know you can buy milk from kiosk any time

[TheGreatsWisdom]

People marry for social validation purposes. I mean your marital status is a status. All your friends, enemies, relatives, colleagues etc want to know if you are married. You have to show them you are married.