Young Women and these Walls they Create

[Abba]

@Mathaais

What do you think?

I don’t know that’s why I was questioning.what do you think

[system]

I am a culprit. I often will ignore some greetings not that I want to hurt or I feel “special” but to avoid the aftermath. It is as a result of objectifying the female body. It takes only a couple of days for unsolicited greetings to turn into harrassment to give into having sex. So like @Mauricio said it’s craving a safe space. There is not a man who these days wants to be “just friends” or to “just have a conversation” they are after the next conquest. The dishonesty is to blame.

[Kdawg254]

@MaryJane

I am a culprit. I often will ignore some greetings not that I want to hurt or I feel “special” but to avoid the aftermath. It is as a result of objectifying the female body. It takes only a couple of days for unsolicited greetings to turn into harrassment to give into having sex. So like @Mauricio said it’s craving a safe space. There is not a man who these days wants to be “just friends” or to “just have a conversation” they are after the next conquest. The dishonesty is to blame.

But am pretty sure a guy in an expensive car na anakaa pesa,huwezi mlenga???

[Mrs4thletter]

@Kdawg254

Ile hunijamisha ni kwa club alafu you try talking to a chic ana roll macho saa hiyo dame si ata msupu vile!Always wonder why someone would come to a SOCIAL place and not bother to SOCIALIZE!

Wewe unadeserve kulengwa

[Kdawg254]

@Mrs4thletter

Wewe unadeserve kulengwa

Reality of life my dear.Atleast sisi wanaume we know how to accept our position.Men know kama you don’t have the looks/personality/money then unakubali position yako vile iko.But chics unapata dame hana a lot going on for (looks/intelligence/personality/money etc) lakini ako na maringo ingine ajab!Hawa ndio hufika late 20s early 30s bado ako single and they have the nerve to say that there are no good men anymore.Chances are alikatiwa na a good man kitambo akamlenga!Aende akikaukanga brarre!

[bjurmann]

Twendeni Church. Yesu hatawahi kukulenga.

[Abba]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vZ8GjY177Y

And another one

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrjfD4GA8sk

[system]

@Kdawg254

But am pretty sure a guy in an expensive car na anakaa pesa,huwezi mlenga???

You mean men trying to impress in cars on loan? Treatment is across the board.

[Mrs4thletter]

@Mzee mzima

This is not the Ktalk norm bana, hapa guys don’t even initiate convo, them girls come running to them, get with the program man. Kidding.

Anyways it could be these things;

1. She has no personality, you know how some of these females be, very pretty but kichwa maji. You engage in convo and by the second minute you’re bored as f**k. After this, the second thing you’ll think of is sex and they wonder smh! Go and approach her when she’s drunk and has ‘liquid courage’ I bet 2/3 times the response won’t be bad

2. She was pissed off by something else before, you know hoes and their feelings

3. She’s tired of that shit. Think about it, how many strangers have tried to do what you just did? It becomes tiring after sometime man.

4. Hutoshi mboga. Maybe your dressing is off, have an abnormal big head, you’re creepy or just don’t have the charm.

For me, I don’t approach shawties who we have no sort of vibe going on (body language etc) unless nichochwe na mabeste. This is after I got stood up by (now after I think of it an average chiq) and the way I consider myself the Idris Alba of Africa (Ktalk Standards msee)

Wewe ebu kwanza ukuje nyumbani nkt

[Mrs4thletter]

Pthoo ati most girls don’t have personality, ati most girls are not good story tellers …

I think what you meant is most girls are not intelligent which is false. If it is true prove it. Saying girls are not good story teller, * lies of saitan* women were born to tell stories .

Most ‘girls’ ignore random guys mainly because of the ’ hunter - prey’ mentality more often than not a guy says hi to a lady he does not know because he has seen something bangable.
Other reasons include but are not limited to bad mood, fear of strangers, maringo etc

[Abba]

@Mrs4thletter

Pthoo ati most girls don’t have personality, ati most girls are not good story tellers …

I think what you meant is most girls are not intelligent which is false. If it is true prove it. Saying girls are not good story teller, * lies of saitan* women were born to tell stories .

I wish they can talk less stories sometimes. Men need peace. We had a tough day at work, we come home just give us 3p-peace, pants , palatable,you will be the best gaoflend or wife. We hate too much stories with side dramas

[karl_marx]

@Riva

Long read!

This morning I woke up at 7AM thinking it was Sunday. I wanted to shower and go to church but i decided against it and chose stay indoors and watch a sermon. Incidentally hakukua na stima.

So I decide Nitoke hapo nje, breath some cold air and let my face soak in the morning sun. While sitting outside my door (remember in this estate hakuna gate so ukitoka nje uko kwa njia ya kila mtu wa hio line), this mwoman comes holding a dustbin heading to the pipa a few more houses down after my door.

Vile alifika karibu na mlango yangu naturally nkamsalia, “morning”. She looks at me and declined to respond. Now, this lady is not an immediate neighbor, hatujuani vizuri; but sometimes it’s only natural to say good morning to someone.

Anyways, that incident got me thinking. It’s the same thing that happens when you try starting a conversation with a female stranger. Sometimes uko kwa mat you see something unique, you point it out to the girl sitting next to you, she looks at you like you want to rape her. You go to the club, the girl sitting next to you has been sitting alone for 1.5 hours and when you try starting a conversation, the first thing she says is grossly mundane, like ‘I’m waiting for my boyfriend’ or something similar.

Sometime back, I was at a library trying to complete some work over the weekend. There was a girl sitting on the other side of my table facing me; obviously reading for an accounting exam. We exchanged a few glances here and there in between the 3-4 hours I was there. She left earlier than me by about half an hour.

Then as I’m walking back home, she joined the road and was now behind me. It was a long and relatively deserted road, so I thought, there’s no harm in engaging her as we obviously are going towards the same direction.

So I slow down polepole and when we were side to side I tried to break the ice. However, the girl increases her pace and leaves me wondering WTF?!?

Maybe I would have provided some insight into her upcoming exam, maybe she would have learnt an idea from me, or me from her. But she singlehandedly trashed the opportunity.

Most young girls think that if you’re talking to her, it’s probably because you want to f**k her. There’s truth in that logic but sometimes it’s not the immediate goal.

Sometimes you just want to talk; have a conversation; know someone new; make a new friend. However, most young women have been cultured to believe in not accommodating a guy with whom they don’t have common ground. Cold approaches no longer work for this reason, unless the girl is very open-minded, and most are not.

For a girl to comfortably/confidently talk to you, it must be because you’re in the same class, work at the same building, or she sees you in the same church, or you have a common friend etc. It could be a security thing, but not entirely.

Conversely, engaging a fellow man in a conversation is very easy. Sometime back I was at the club slowly sipping my tusker and there was this lass shaking her ass a few meters from the table I was sharing with another guy. Anyway, I realized that we were both looking at the same ass intently.

So I broke the ice and made a comment about that ass to the other guy. We spent the next about twenty or so minutes philosophically evaluating the female behind; the different types, the impact of a shaking ass on the mind of a man; the inheritance of an ass; Vera sidika etc. Turns out the guy was a hotshot lawyer in Kach. We had a great conversation and I also received some free legal advice on some issues.

For young women, that wall they erect deprives them of the opportunity to possibly have a good or bad conversation, all which can create experience and can be fun.

More so, It demonstrates a deficiency of confidence to at least say ,“I’d like to talk to you but right now i don’t wanna talk.” Or just plainly, “I don’t feel safe talking to you.” That way she can make a point and expressly declare her position. But an 18-25YO woman ignoring someone makes her look grossly prejudiced and immature.

Peasant mentality. Go out there and make money…they will be hunting for you. All women that love me(including our @Purr_27 ) call me even before i have woken up. Go and make some money…

[Grundy]

Life’s like that. You win some and lose some. One thing you should really avoid is coming across as a creep.
ION, Kenya and Nairobi in particular has become really insecure and it’s hard to trust strangers, even as a man I get a liitle apprehensive whenever a total stranger approaches me.

[M2Random]

@kinglator

after all that ignoring and having imaginery boyfriends they find themselves at mid 30’s and on cleglist looking for a mature male who is ready for marriage.

At that time they have a kid or two from sponsors.

[chieftm]

Form yako ya kustua dem dio iko down…wacha kusema hi…stua woma ki mwanaume…sema kitu kama …oya,vipi,cheki na unatia sauti…mwanaume. ni sautti

[M2Random]

@Mrs4thletter

Pthoo ati most girls don’t have personality, ati most girls are not good story tellers …

I think what you meant is most girls are not intelligent which is false. If it is true prove it. Saying girls are not good story teller, * lies of saitan* women were born to tell stories .

Most ‘girls’ ignore random guys mainly because of the ’ hunter - prey’ mentality more often than not a guy says hi to a lady he does not know because he has seen something bangable.
Other reasons include but are not limited to bad mood, fear of strangers, maringo etc

The kind of stories girls talk, sadly, are not the kind that we find interesting. I cant spend five minutes talking about curtains. These stories may be very interesting to fellow women, not men.

[M2Random]

Boss…also, have you considered that you may be aiming above your league hence the high rejection rate? I am confident of myself, but I dont think my chances would be that good with Eve De Souza…would they? You might want to lower your standards a little bit.

[system]

@Abba

Everytime I tried to vibe a mwoman and she turns me down I used to console myself , that’s saving I just did otherwise I would have burnt money to take someone to nandos and chicken inn. I would feel good for myself after this

Rejection is part of us . Once you get rejected 3 times you get used to it. Hata Michelle Obama rejected barrack severally . It’s part of us.

And if you ask me how many times I have been rejected ,so many times even this morning I was rejected with alady who I was trying to tell her she left the lights of her car on. So you need to find a common ground with a lady before you start convo. Otherwise some women people don’t take approaches from strangers kindly

Lakini sasa, si all our friends and eventually, partners, were once strangers to us?

[lelboinet]

True

[system]

@Abba

Akuje na zile dump truck ama

Plus the pneumatic roller.