After reading this thread, I cant fail to notice how the Bible answers some of life's most vital questions:
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.