Guys in their late 30's, 40's and 50's...
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1. Get all education you can in the next 3 years. If it’s pHD, do it now.
2.Hustle like crazy. On the job and outside. 65% of your savings should be out there trying to make money. Not sitting in an account.
Remember that if you make it past 72, count yourself lucky.So,
3. If you ever intend to get kids,
a) Marry early. Latest by 31. Latest. Broke or not.
b) Marry your friend.
c) Get all your kids by 38. Your 50s is time to enjoy the world. Travel and relax. Not attending headmasters meetings for misbehaving kids. And you are heading to the finish line. It’s on the horizon.
d) Get all your kids one after the other and finish. Their clothes are passdowns. One every year. Don’t go past 4, unless you must.
4. Enjoy the ride. Drink responsively and exercise.
Nothing is that serious.
1. Get all education you can in the next 3 years. If it’s pHD, do it now.
2.Hustle like crazy. On the job and outside. 65% of your savings should be out there trying to make money. Not sitting in an account.
Remember that if you make it past 72, count yourself lucky.So,
3. If you ever intend to get kids,
a) Marry early. Latest by 31. Latest. Broke or not.
b) Marry your friend.
c) Get all your kids by 38. Your 50s is time to enjoy the world. Travel and relax. Not attending headmasters meetings for misbehaving kids. And you are heading to the finish line. It’s on the horizon.
d) Get all your kids one after the other and finish. Their clothes are passdowns. One every year. Don’t go past 4, unless you must.
4. Enjoy the ride. Drink responsively and exercise.
Nothing is that serious.
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After reading this thread, I cant fail to notice how the Bible answers some of life's most vital questions:
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
After reading this thread, I cant fail to notice how the Bible answers some of life's most vital questions:
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
I am 39,no wife , no kid.
Was your immediate employment in the IT field?
If not, did you have knowledge in Coding or just self-study ?
I am 34 years. From how my life unraveled i can authoritatively say that life happens and you should go with the flow. I was jobless after Uni for many years, my friends started driving before me,life had stagnated, did my masters to avoid idleness, my first job paid 17k despite having a masters. By 27 i had moved three jobs and was banking 35k net. Then i landed a gig in real estate that paid by commission. Sold chunks of land and at age 27 got my first cheque of Kshs 25M. My tide turned and ever since i have been buying property and investing heavily in all sectors, banking,lending apps, real estate etc. I live in a good neighbourhood, drive top of the range cars, take my family for camping, international holidays, name it. I have been divorced too and have a number of baby mamas in my line up. Now to answer your question- If you asked me where i would be before my fortune changed at age 27 ningekuambia utafute job ya 100k, uende gym, uende kanisa, avoid women, avoid drinking etc....
Thanks....I just got my master's like 3 months ago and my brain is kinda tired, will "rest" a bit trying to run a small company then pick up phd later, my dad has one so I just have to get one too, gotta be better than him, ni healthy competition between us.
I cant marry at 31, I don't see that happening; I dont even have a lady friend that I would consider for marriage;
Hapo kwa all my kinds by 38 is solid. That one is definitel happening by God's grace.
I cant marry at 31, I don't see that happening; I dont even have a lady friend that I would consider for marriage;
Hapo kwa all my kinds by 38 is solid. That one is definitel happening by God's grace.
After reading this thread, I cant fail to notice how the Bible answers some of life's most vital questions:
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
After reading this thread, I cant fail to notice how the Bible answers some of life's most vital questions:
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers,
After reading this thread, I cant fail to notice how the Bible answers some of life's most vital questions:
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers, No. My immediate field is finance/accounting.
Most of my coding has been self study and posting projects on gifthub.
1. About avoiding whorring. ( Her lips drop like honey but bite like a puff adder. Somewhere in Proverbs)
2. The fact that someone who cant support his family is worse than an unbeliever. This stresses the importance of financial independence.
3. About thrift and working hard. ( He who does not work should not eat)
4. The role of chance and luck. ( ie the race is not for the swiftest but time and chance happeneth to them all)
5. The importance of family (It's not good for man to be alone. Fads like MGTOW may look trendy but they are deathtraps, unnatural, and lonely)
6. The role of a GOOD wife.
7. Honoring your parents ( The only comandment with a promise)
8. Belonging to a social group which holds you accountable. (We can have a wonderful social circle but nothing beats a community of true believers who love each other)
9. Marrying early. This is controversial but the Bible talks about "the wife of your *youth*. I believe there's a lot of published research here as well.
10. Avoiding alcohol.
11. The vanity of materialism. What really is *success*?? "Fear God and give him glory for this the whole duty of man."
A liitle about me.
45 years. Happily married to a woman I dont think I can ever replace.
Temptations though, are there. Even straying. But this should not be habitual. As an elder said previously, the investment in BOTH time and money is never going to be worth it.
The thrill and excitement are hard to shake off but honestly, I still hold him in high regard, a man who is faithful to his wife, or genuinely tries to, in order to raise a HAPPY family and to pass on beautiful memories to the children.
On finances, people tend to paint life with a broad brush and to quote cliches about how much one should earn.
At 45, I just found my passion in coding after losing my job years back. I now do a remote job. I get only 1,000 usd per month. But I relocated to a rural area where I managed to get a 3 bedroom self-contained for 12,000 and where food is very cheap. Also, I don't commute since I work from home. Finally, I can be able to save 50k per month, something I couldnt do when I was employed with a gross of 145k. At this stage in life, obviosly late by kijiji standards, I can finally smell some financial success, and in a field where good health can see me earning well into my 80s (like John Khaminwa
Lesson is, forget about 'if you dont do this by this time' nonsense. Of course, we cant wish away the urgency of time, but sometimes, we apply it a tad too dictatorially.
For me, I just want children who are happy, responsible, and fulfilled. If a child is responsible, I believe he will have the software to create his own wealth or his other version of success. I dont have to bestow wealth on him.
I also just want a wife who is not hurting and shedding tears because of me. My mom taught me that the tears of a woman can undo a man's blessings. I don't buy the alpha-male trope because I think it's just hyper-selfishness on steriods.
Cheers, No. My immediate field is finance/accounting.
Most of my coding has been self study and posting projects on gifthub.
I am 36 years old. Got married at 26 years, I have two kids (8) and (5) years (a girl and a Boy), no intention to add more. I have a solid wife by all reasonable standards. Lessons I have picked:
1) Take care of your family and as an elder has said hapo juu, don't be the cause of tears to your wife and give your kids the best life you can and a childhood full of lasting memories (expose them as much as you can (travel, books, movies, etc) and let them interact with all and sundry, even those less fortunate than you)
2) Always make plans with God as the Person to consult first. Spiritual intervention always works.
3) Don't forget your roots, no matter where you come from and make your kids aware of their heritage.
4) Be wary of relatives (even blood relatives), they are are your biggest haters.
5) Pursue your dreams at an early stage and cut a niche early. Believe in staying true to the course.
6) Get a good wife with an ambition in life (be it in being a business woman, career woman or a house wife) and be an enabler of her ambition.
7) Always work towards living behind an inheritance that will transcend not only your children but your grand children.
8) Expand your earning capacity and try to legitimize your earnings.
9) Honour your parents, more importantly put your father closer (whether alive or dead). If dead visit his resting place and talk to him.
10)Start taking care of your health at an early stage and be disciplined while at it both in your exercise routine and diet.
11) Get a tribe of men to interact with you can start at the gym.
12) Don't be a boring person, travel, read and always have fun while living life. (Life is for the living).
13) Always leave everybody you interact with, with a pleasant experience (hard as it may be).
14) Don't compare or compete with anyone on any aspect of your life be it love life, finances, etc. Just run you race.
15) As a man never say it can't happen to me.
16) Get an old man twice your age and learn from their mistakes more so on their relationship side (marriage life, family life) and mistakes they have made career wise and business wise. They don't have to be a mentor in my view but somebody to bounce ideas off.
Great post all in all. Picked some useful lessons.
1) Take care of your family and as an elder has said hapo juu, don't be the cause of tears to your wife and give your kids the best life you can and a childhood full of lasting memories (expose them as much as you can (travel, books, movies, etc) and let them interact with all and sundry, even those less fortunate than you)
2) Always make plans with God as the Person to consult first. Spiritual intervention always works.
3) Don't forget your roots, no matter where you come from and make your kids aware of their heritage.
4) Be wary of relatives (even blood relatives), they are are your biggest haters.
5) Pursue your dreams at an early stage and cut a niche early. Believe in staying true to the course.
6) Get a good wife with an ambition in life (be it in being a business woman, career woman or a house wife) and be an enabler of her ambition.
7) Always work towards living behind an inheritance that will transcend not only your children but your grand children.
8) Expand your earning capacity and try to legitimize your earnings.
9) Honour your parents, more importantly put your father closer (whether alive or dead). If dead visit his resting place and talk to him.
10)Start taking care of your health at an early stage and be disciplined while at it both in your exercise routine and diet.
11) Get a tribe of men to interact with you can start at the gym.
12) Don't be a boring person, travel, read and always have fun while living life. (Life is for the living).
13) Always leave everybody you interact with, with a pleasant experience (hard as it may be).
14) Don't compare or compete with anyone on any aspect of your life be it love life, finances, etc. Just run you race.
15) As a man never say it can't happen to me.
16) Get an old man twice your age and learn from their mistakes more so on their relationship side (marriage life, family life) and mistakes they have made career wise and business wise. They don't have to be a mentor in my view but somebody to bounce ideas off.
Great post all in all. Picked some useful lessons.