Mahari mnalipa how much?

Shemeji_x

Village Elder
#1
Back in March I was crashing at my buddies place after a series of unfortunate incidences..(story for another day). We were just having a casual conversation about SUV'swhen he referred to a "big car" which they had hired to accompany a collegue(kevo*) for mahari talks the previous week. Minutes later he was telling about their trip to the home of kevo's gf. That was the second time since the first meeting 3 weeks earlier wasn't fruitful . Apparently the parents were asking for a whooping 5 million shillings. After negotiations the chic's paroz settled at 3 million refusing to go lower. The guy wasn't satisfied so the guy left with his wazee and instructed the chic to "go crazy ". So girl started drama ie kulia, hunger strike among other tactics. The guy received the second invitation and ended up agreeing on 1.7mil. Which was to payed in two installments. Hearing this number send chills down my spine. I'm still in Campo but damn kama hii ndo kuoa :mad:or I'm I just cheap. So what are the figures out there? Married guys how much did you pay?:(
 
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fishmonger

Village Elder
#4
Dowry is not a bank loan such that you will be taken to court, CRB or the auctioneers if you don't pay. Just take a decent figure that you can afford, even if it is 100k. Pay the crucial traditional demands. Hizo zingine utalipa "pole pole."

If the family insists on millions and you are a peasant...walk away utafute msichana wa league yako.
 

Shemeji_x

Village Elder
#10
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Naskia the dad alidai eti amesomesha mtoto hadi University Para ..na eti Para ya medschool ni expe.... :rolleyes:(approx. 460k yearly give or take for 6yrs )
The guy is also a doc.
 

fishmonger

Village Elder
#14
Kijana @Shemeji_x , If you don't have money and you want to get married don't go to the in-laws and say you want to pay dowry a few months after meeting your girl. As the elders have said, pea msichana mimba, then go ask for permission to stay with her. Waambie dowry utalipa baadaye, just give the wazees something small and they will allow you to stay with the girl.
After 10 years, go pay the dowry. mtakua mumezoeana as in-laws. They will not extort you.
 

kasaman

Village Elder
#16
Dowry is not a bank loan such that you will be taken to court, CRB or the auctioneers if you don't pay. Just take a decent figure that you can afford, even if it is 100k. Pay the crucial traditional demands. Hizo zingine utalipa "pole pole."

If the family insists on millions and you are a peasant...walk away utafute msichana wa league yako.
You just can't walk away , their depends are should never interfere with the two of you ! Remember you don't negotiate directly, get smart people to do it .otherwise dowry has no limit ,it's not a business for minting monies
 

spear

Village Sponsor
#17
Hii tumesema mara mingi sana. Get her pregnant. Kaa ngumu kabisa, let them complain. Jaza tena and you can now start visiting. After all watoto ni wako. Jaza ya mwisho na utulie. If they ask those crazy dowry uliza hao pesa ya watoto itatokea wapi. Kwani wanataka grandchildren to suffer over greed. Hapo ndio utalipa tu what's fair and respectable and that story is over.
 
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fishmonger

Village Elder
#18
You just can't walk away , their depends are should never interfere with the two of you ! Remember you don't negotiate directly, get smart people to do it .otherwise dowry has no limit ,it's not a business for minting monies
Some families are very strict, they will insist on a high bride price and an expensive church wedding just to scare off peasants that want to approach their daughter
 

WuTang

Village Chief
#20
Hii tumesema mara mingi sana. Get her pregnant. Kaa ngumu kabisa, let them complain. Jaza tena and you can now start visiting. After all watoto no wako. Jaza ya mwisho na utulie. If they ask those crazy dowry uliza hao pesa ya watoto itatokea wapi. Kwani wanataka grandchildren to suffer over greed. Hapo ndio utalipa tu what's fair and respectable and that story is over.
Mimi saa zingine hata simu za in-laws huwa nalenga kwanza halafu naambia wife awapigie nikisuspect kuna outrageous financial demands.
 

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