I have been married for the last three years. I met my wife immediately after she completed her studies in colle. We have been staying in nrb since then. We moved in and after a whole year of “come we stay” then we decided to visit our parents. Both mine and hers. This was in Dec 2015.
My wife is now 4months pregnant. I cant really say we moved in very fast because we knew each other before. That is since we were in highskul only that th issues of sharing same blanket erupted after she was done studying.
We found out she was pregnant while the plans to officiate our union plus hii maneno ya dowry ilikuwa underway. Mipango ya harusi pia iko kwa list.
Sasa mimi na hii maneno ya mimba sinanga experience nayo. When she was first hit by this pregnancy manenos ilikuwa tu mastory na vomiting everything she ate and nausea all the time.
I have known her as a very active and full of energy type of a woman since we met. Ni mtu wa kanisa plus ni hard kupata amemiss church on sundays. Shes also loving and caring. Times mob alikuwa akinishow kuwa ananipenda and I loved her too.
Despite all that I have been very supportive and much caring. Nimekuwa nikimguide sana esp those tyms mimba ilikuwa imemkalia sana. I have no life outside of my job and to take care of her ilibidi nichukue leave ya 2weeks.
Sasa for those two weeks amekuwa a totally different person. she is cold, unfeeling, uninterested, uncaring, hata hataki kuniona karibu and so much heartless with me. Yale mapenzi ya kitambo yametoweka kabisa. Mi nashidwa unawezaje acha kumpenda mtu ambaye you have stayed with for 2yrs?
Last week ndio alinishow ati ako tired of everyhting but mi nafeel anamaanisha ako tired of everyhitng about me and now she feels like nimemweka mtego ya kumtia mimba ndio anaregret.
Nilipojaribu kumuuliza anatakaje alisema all she cared about ni mtoi pekeake. Sasa kila mtu ananiambia its a combination of hormones in her body during a child’s development.
The fact her life has changed so much in such a short period of time is so worrying and sometimes am getting irritated and disappointed about it.
Tumejaribu kuongea but yeye haoni how truly i am, how concerned, caring and loving and that am trying my very best to love her and my kid. How can she change her mind after 2years of being together. I cannot leave because she has not asked me to and i feel that it is my responsibility to take care of her and my kid.
She is 24 yrs old and i am 28. I never thought she would stop loving just like that.
I wish i knew what to do or what to think. Wenyekijiji saidieni kwa ushauri wowote ule utakaonifaidi
Nitashukuru.