Greetings Talkers.
Let me start by asking you a simple question. Do you know the social compensation theory? I know you dont! Kazi ni kupiga kelele hapa sijui NASA, Jubilee, Bei ya Unga etc. Let me educate you for a minute, this theory explains that to get greater results in any objective, a team setting is more effective than doing work individually. And in this team setting, there is always that one or two people who work harder than the rest to achieve the target because they perceive the task to be personally meaningful.Kwa wale kizungu imewapiga chenga hapo, ni kama tu mkiwa campo, kulikuwa na wale watu wa kudandia groupwork, and the guys who actually did the groupwork.
Now this theory has been used to accurately forecast scenarios in online dating and applied to enhancing ones social popularity, but there is one factor that is ever unpredictable which makes this theory inconclusive, and that factor is what you call LIFE!!! Life is an independent variable that was never found and cannot be explained in this theory. Now we all know that chop guy in school, ule alikuwa anapata A kwa kila kitu. What did we expect him to be, a doctor ofcourse. Na kale kadem kasupuu kalikuwa na tumatako na kifua tuzuri, ofcourse a television anchor. Now these are the projections that this theory projects, and makes your mind believe to a certain level that it becomes the truth. That is why unaonanga hao watoto wamepita KCSE are all over TV saying I want to be a doctor, because they have the capacity to reach there.
Enter Life! Na mnajuanga vitu haziendangi vile zimepangwa. These A materials some get into drugs and mess up, the beatiful ladies wanapewa ball na makanga. Now for the few that make it, the projections of who they want to be and who they really are is at different levels. And the higher the gap, the higher the chance you are deemed a failure!! To cut a long story short, why is it that you label a guy “amechapa??”. Because of the mental projection of who you expect him/her to be. I all know mumefika ile part ya, “sasa huyu msee anandika nini???” Hold on kidogo, niko karibu kumaliza. Huku si kilimani moms, ati part2 coming up.
We all know wale wasee maisha haikuwaendea poa, and are used as examples. Guys who were doing so well in life mpaka they made everyone jealous, alafu something happened along the way and everything came crumbling down like a stack of cards. And here is the sick part, people actually enjoy seing such downfalls. Ndio mrudi the same level. Hiyo ndio Nairobi tuko actually sorry to say, no one wants to see you succeedd beyond your projected graph. That is why dem amechapa akifanya wedding and gets beautiful kids before the hot mama, calculations are done as to HOW??? Ule jamaa alikuwa anachunga ngombe pokot anakuja anakuwa head of ICT company yenu, hesabu hizo tena, HOW??? Na hapo ndio mnapitwa kimaisha, because you are following the graph projected by the social compensation theory. Na hapo ndio all manner of excuses crop up. "alidinywa na mdosi, huyo ni mwizi, mama yake anajuana na Moi, bla bla bla.
Now these "hows’ and trying to explain how these events are unfolding is what we call “cutting the loop”, or in Kenya best known as Mushene. Your focus now turns from your own mental projection to another persons projections and start comparing notes. Jamaa mlikuwa na yeye primary, sahii ako dubai na mimi niko hapa makanga wa forward travellers, nini ilifanyika? The other guy hana shughuli, hes busy comparing himself positively, where he needs to be next.
So when you see other people doing better than you, na wewe kila kitu inakuendea mrama, jua hakuna kitu inaitwa maisha, shida ni wewe!!! You are the result of your poor choices.