Advice needed

[john_doe]

@Voltron

Ni kama walikula yote ikaisha. Last time I checked the shop was almost empty. There was no stock and no money to show for it. I think she shoulders all the financial responsibilities of the family as the husband blows all his cash on alcohol.

Let them hustle this time round and find their own path out of poverty that’s the best way you can help them

[system]

Huyu cousin, by blood or marriage?

[Voltron]

@kamnjoro

Huyu cousin, by blood or marriage?

Blood

[system]

@Voltron

Blood

Tricky then.

Anyway, help her badala ya phombe.

[Voltron]

@kamnjoro

Tricky then.

Anyway, help her badala ya phombe.

Phombe nawacha na bado sitamsaidia…I told her last year ajipange juu mtoto atahitaji pesa january. She has a husband. I have to think about myself now…e.g adding more property before settling down.

[LeoK]

The way I see it you are to blame. You of your own volition decided to start the hand outs. Look at it this way. If you hadn’t stepped in she would probably be fending for herself by now. Let her know you will not cough up another cent. However I feel you should assist if you are able to. By the way there are many organisations sponsoring needy but bright students.

[Voltron]

@LeoK

The way I see it you are to blame. You of your own volition decided to start the hand outs. Look at it this way. If you hadn’t stepped in she would probably be fending for herself by now. Let her know you will not cough up another cent. However I feel you should assist if you are able to. By the way there are many organisations sponsoring needy but bright students.

[kanguthu]

Are you sure hawa watoto ni wa huyo jamaa

[Voltron]

@kanguthu

Are you sure hawa watoto ni wa huyo jamaa

As far as I can tell ni wake…he has been with her for the entire time, they call him dad etc…however, we all know that it is only her who knows the real father…but it is what she has made everyone to believe

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[LeoK]

@Voltron

As far as I can tell ni wake…he has been with her for the entire time, they call him dad etc…however, we all know that it is only her who knows the real father…but it is what she has made everyone to believe

I think the chap is politely asking if the kids are yours.

[Voltron]

@LeoK

I think the chap is politely asking if the kids are yours.

The kids are definitely not mine…she is my blood cousin for Christ’s sake…how can the kids be mine??

[system]

@Voltron

I have a very sensitive situation at hand. It is usually very difficult mixing relatives and money issues. I have a close relative who is married. The family is not well off financially. I used to assist her with some cash when I started earning, but it soon became a habit. She expected me to give her cash often, as if it was my responsibility. Nonetheless, I helped when I could. About a year ago, I started a business for her, stocked it, paid rent for six months to give her a sufficient grace period for it to pick. Basically, I catered for everything and the business was located in a busy bus stop so there is huge flow of customers. I did this because I knew that she would soon start paying school fees for her girl who is due to join secondary school this year. Basically, I wanted her to be on her feet before this year. Yesterday she called me crying and begging for school fees. Considering that she has a husband, who is a chang’aa type addict, I decided enough was enough and told her to ask her husband to look for school fees because it is his job, not mine. How would you deal with such a case, considering that it is a close relative, and her husband doesnt seem to step up and do his obligations? I have tried the best I can, and it has come to a time when I have to tell her to learn how to make her husband responsible, because I cant perform the responsibilities her husband should be doing.

You did your part. Sasa wacha afanye yake pia.

[system]

@gashwin

mwambie you are ready to assist her one final time but lazima awe tayari kufunga mizigo ahamie tarakea where the deadbeat husband will not find her. kama ni muti atapata ingine mbele…

:D:D:D Tough love ndiyo hii sasa.

[system]

@Voltron

I will not provide any financial help to her again…so that she can be forced to either leave the deadbeat man, or figure out how to make him responsible for his family. She cannot make a choice unless she is desperate enough to see the effect of having a deadbeat husband in the house.

Kama ni ‘dead-beat’ mlevi, mbona hamwachi?

[Slartibartfast]

The two of them might be using your good graces for their benefit.

[blueline]

Unless her husband is gone hapo ndio anaweza saidika or Meet with the guy and tell him to testicle up

[WuTang]

Kitu inabore ni alimanga shop mpaka ikadunda. Huyo mwache, labda hata yeye ndiye amekuwa akimpa huzzie yake doo ya fombe.

[Okwonkwo]

To stop someone from borrowing you money,anza kumuomba yeye pesa. Lament how you are in distress and your job ain’t doing well. If you are employed, mwambie hata hujalipwa since December

[Nattydread]

@Voltron

Because I feel that I cant help her all her life. Her husband needs to step up.

What kasaman is saying is that you spoiled your cousin by playing provider and giving her the impression that you were an ATM without a pincode. Where do you think that husband got the means to become an alcoholic?

So that I do not seem to be commenting without advice, I’d suggest that you pay fees directly to the school for your niece, and also equip her for the term. Under no circumstances should you provide CASH or convertible assets to your cousin and her deadbeat man.