I need Advice please

[system]

@Ka-Buda

" my boyfie has been pressuring me to move in with him n i hav politely refused.
You have a boyfriend?
Story of my life! Just when i thought we had something going on…!!!.. sirkal saidia…amevunja roho yangu!..
But on a serious note. i don`t think that any woman can make any man marry them if they are not “feeling them”. You can persuade a woman into marriage with nicities and bullshit but a man will never be coerced into “getting serious”. If you have been living together for 10 years and have 4 children and he is still slow to make the commitment,believe me there is one or two boxes he is yet to tick about you and no amount of coercion or hints will change his mind. And its almost always a Trust issue that is getting in the way.

Hata Mimi nimeshangaa!

[system]

Ati ur moving in with a man to cook for him? Hata mimi huachiwa food na jioni wanapata kama sikupika.

[Nananimpa]

@Female Perspective

Hata Mimi nimeshangaa!

Wisdom calls for a plan B in life…

[onekigogo]

@Ice_Cube

Are you sure he wants you to move in? … No amount of financial difficulty equates a man foregoing his freedom

True to the last drop

[Ka-Buda]

@Female Perspective

Hata Mimi nimeshangaa!

@Nananimpa

Wisdom calls for a plan B in life…

At least my @Nananimpa is Honest. There is nothing better than Honesty and Trust to form the foundation of any relationship;romantic or otherwise.

[montecarlo]

No one has noticed this lady’s aviator is of a lady lying next to a gun…mko sure she’s not a maukiress seeking advice on how to weka box a fellow mauki…?

[slevyn]

that story reeks of desparation no man is comfortable with that one word spaceee not super available desperation

[Purr_27]

@Nananimpa

Girlfriend, don’t make the mistake of moving in with him before he propose and marry you! If you do, there goes ur white wedding!! B4 long u’ll get pregnant, kids will get inthe way of you ever formalising your relationship n there is something about men that if it is not formal, he might walk away one day na akwambie, “i didnt want this in the 1st place niwewe ulihamia kwangu.” my boyfie has been pressuring me to move in with him n i hav politely refused. I told him if he needs a woman next to him every night, to cook n take care of him, he should then get married. am not getting into a “come we stay” arrangement with him. Wen women do this, we lose our bargaining power!! Please don’t put urself in a position where in the future u might feel used n exploited. I hav a friend who cohabited with her boyfie for 13 years n the dude walked away n left her with a kid to raise. You have to love wisely n don’t forget that you come first!!

I concur completely…

[Purr_27]

@Mathice

Living with a man before marriage is the same as the guy milking a cow he hasn’t bought. Why bother buying if the milk supply is assured and consistent?

Very true…i will not do wifely chores n all the stress na hata hakuna mahari… eish

[The.Black.Templar]

@Ice_Cube

it sounds malicious and manipulative but that is what you ladies are good at!

Yea…I think I am being manipulated by someone here, time to reverse roles

[The.Black.Templar]

@Ka-Buda

And its almost always a Trust issue that is getting in the way.

True true true…

[kush_yule_mnono]

Am just wondering, why is it that when a pink handle brings some funny problems to the village all the blue handles become marriage counselors in a flash and if for example @ekamsweu brings a concern with his momo watu wa DOYA are at hand to do what they do best. Aki ya Ngai hii ni hujuma priss

[gashwin]

@Liana

not his…my aunt

what, pray, were they discussing with your aunt?

[The.Black.Templar]

@Purr_27

Very true…i will not do wifely chores n all the stress na hata hakuna mahari… eish

Haha Mrembo, you need to atleast do the dishes bana, how else will a man know you are wife material??? or even better invite him to your place and cook for the lad, eish, wtaka tujue aje unaweza kuwa mke nyumbani

[gashwin]

@Nananimpa

Wen women do this, we lose our bargaining power!!

are we talking about a plot deal or a lifelong partnership 'tween two people who love each other here?

[gashwin]

@Ka-Buda

Story of my life! Just when i thought we had something going on…!!!..

kabooooom! burst goes the bubble! pole bro…

[Purr_27]

@The.Black.Templar

Haha Mrembo, you need to atleast do the dishes bana, how else will a man know you are wife material??? or even better invite him to your place and cook for the lad, eish, wtaka tujue aje unaweza kuwa mke nyumbani

I will do the above even sleepover…bt nt come we stay(wifely commitmnt)

[kush_yule_mnono]

@Purr_27

I will do the above even sleepover…bt nt come we stay(wifely commitmnt)

So umekubali DFHKM itawesa panda, trust me hivi tu ndio vyenye cum we stay huanza

[Mzee_mzima]

@Ka-Buda

" my boyfie has been pressuring me to move in with him n i hav politely refused.
You have a boyfriend?
Story of my life! Just when i thought we had something going on…!!!.. sirkal saidia…amevunja roho yangu!

@Ka-Buda Rich Mavoko aliimba akasema kuchapiwa ni siri ya ndani

[Liana]

Waaaooohh !! I knew I could count on u guys I should even been paying some people here for such an advice.very wise .am feeling the urge to hug u all. Thank u all en God bless
Am now liberated I knw what to do